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Old 14-12-11, 09:35 PM   #1
 
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When I was younger I always used to be in my own world. I never payed attention to reality because I used tp be a day-dreamer and I used to always picture myself as a successful and heroic person. However in reality, I wanted to have lots of fun and have many companions. A lot of the "cool" people from my school used to talk to me often (I don't know if they were serious or if they were joking around). So I thought they liked me and I decided to fit in with them. Fitting in with them also made me feel more positive about myself because they are considered to be "cool" and being in thier group made me "cool" as well. But since I tried acting like them in order to be in their group, they would make fun of me, and would end up eventually insulting me by calling me "fat", "ugly", "stupid", "annoying", "you have no friends", and "you are worthless, and no one cares for you."
I had to deal with this for about 4 years. People always thought I was worthless and they never cared for me and never even thought of the fact that I am a human being who has feelings too. What really confuses me is, if they ended up making fun of me and hurting my feelings in the end, then why the hell would they come up and talk with thme in the first place???! Now that's just stupid of them. They would always insult me behind my back and act really hurtful. They would also spread evil rumors about me behind my back as well.
Until today, this still angers me to death, and I wanna get back to them and knock their brains out. They have caused enough harm for me to be extremely mad at them. Now that I live in a new town, this is a disadvantage because suppose if I never saw them ever again, how do I get my damn revenge?
They deserve hell, all because of what they have done to me, and I am ready anyday to give them a dosage of that.
They made me feel like I am worthless, unimportant, a loner, not special, a loser, a failure, and I can't even look at myself in the mirror whenever I feel this way about myself. T__T

So what do I do next? How do I get my revenge? I can't help it, this is making me SUPER ANGRY!
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Old 14-12-11, 10:01 PM   #2
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It's too late for revenge, to be perfectly honest. You're in a new town, move past it, start fresh. I was bullied my whole damned life up until I left school for medical reasons (that would be for 10 years), so I never got the chance to start over. I was always the freak, the loner, the doormat, and the useless girl who sat in the corner and never talked to anyone.

If you really wanted revenge then you should have gotten it before you moved, before you had a fresh start. Revenge is for people who believe they have nothing left to lose.

So instead of focusing so much on the past, you move past it and you use that anger to drive your ambition. I, for one, would focus on being happy and if I ever ran into them again I'd show them that yeah they hurt me when I was a kid, but they're so meaningless and pathetic, why should they hold any influence over my life?

Revenge at this point, esp. at this point, is just telling me that they still have power and control over you, what you do, and what you think. Because now you have than chance to move on (that's more than a lot of people get) and you're insisting on not letting it go. The way to get better is to control your own life and not let hurtful people control it for you.

Bullying is just a way to make miserable people feel better about themselves by making other people feel worse than they do. Or they're sadists. Either way, it's about power and control, so letting them influence your life so heavily, esp. when you have the chance to start over, is pointless and really all you'd be doing is blowing your chances at starting over by remaining to focus on what was instead of what could be.

Basically, you're in a new place, go have fun, make some friends, have a life. Revenge is pointless now since you're no longer having to actually live in it.

Leave revenge up to karma, odds are the people who bullied you are morons so they'll probably get an STD, get pregnant, get into a drunk driving incident, get busted for doing something criminal, or any number of stupid-ass things people do for kicks these days.
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It's too late for revenge, to be perfectly honest. You're in a new town, move past it, start fresh. I was bullied my whole damned life up until I left school for medical reasons (that would be for 10 years), so I never got the chance to start over. I was always the freak, the loner, the doormat, and the useless girl who sat in the corner and never talked to anyone.

If you really wanted revenge then you should have gotten it before you moved, before you had a fresh start. Revenge is for people who believe they have nothing left to lose.

So instead of focusing so much on the past, you move past it and you use that anger to drive your ambition. I, for one, would focus on being happy and if I ever ran into them again I'd show them that yeah they hurt me when I was a kid, but they're so meaningless and pathetic, why should they hold any influence over my life?

Revenge at this point, esp. at this point, is just telling me that they still have power and control over you, what you do, and what you think. Because now you have than chance to move on (that's more than a lot of people get) and you're insisting on not letting it go. The way to get better is to control your own life and not let hurtful people control it for you.

Bullying is just a way to make miserable people feel better about themselves by making other people feel worse than they do. Or they're sadists. Either way, it's about power and control, so letting them influence your life so heavily, esp. when you have the chance to start over, is pointless and really all you'd be doing is blowing your chances at starting over by remaining to focus on what was instead of what could be.

Basically, you're in a new place, go have fun, make some friends, have a life. Revenge is pointless now since you're no longer having to actually live in it.

Leave revenge up to karma, odds are the people who bullied you are morons so they'll probably get an STD, get pregnant, get into a drunk driving incident, get busted for doing something criminal, or any number of stupid-ass things people do for kicks these days.
I just want to prove to them that I am a great person and they can't change that about me. I still have them on Facebook but I don't talk with them. I believe I have a great future ahead of me, and you are right, you're last paragraph makes lots of sense to me! I just don't like knowing the fact that there are people out there that think I'm worthless and stupid. It doesn't leave my mind. It''s a pain! Like I said, I just want to prove myself to them...

But thank you.
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Marionetta beat me to it. I hope you get along better now
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What really confuses me is, if they ended up making fun of me and hurting my feelings in the end, then why the hell would they come up and talk with thme in the first place???!
High School is rough, I know. And there's always that sick group of people who believe they're better than everyone, who get off on making other people feel horrible about themselves.

They're sick, twisted, and honestly it disgusts me. You're not worthless, whatsoever.

I went through a lot of that shit (sorry) in high school, but eventually I realized it wasn't worth my time, or emotion to give it a second thought.

So, enjoy being a day-dreamer, b.c. daydreaming is awesome
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High School is rough, I know. And there's always that sick group of people who believe they're better than everyone, who get off on making other people feel horrible about themselves.

They're sick, twisted, and honestly it disgusts me. You're not worthless, whatsoever.

I went through a lot of that shit (sorry) in high school, but eventually I realized it wasn't worth my time, or emotion to give it a second thought.

So, enjoy being a day-dreamer, b.c. daydreaming is awesome
Thanks, best of luck to you!
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