[Shirai]

I know I normally don't post help threads on here but something's been
bugging me lately and I think..I need help.
I just want to let this out and talk about it.

My aunt died 2 weeks ago,and I've never had someone in my life die before,When I first knew about what happened,I didn't cry..at all.
She died of cancer,I couldn't picture her dead,I just couldn't believe it,but after a few days I read her name in the newspapers,and that day I realized that she no longer is alive and cried so much.

I've been getting those thoughts lately..like I ask my sister a lot if my aunt
could see us..etc,and if she really saw us when we cried,then it must have hurt her..right? I mean I don't want to see my friends and family living their lives while I'm dead,it'd hurt so much,and I think I'm so terrified of dying now,whenever I go to a place I think what if I die here? What if these are my last days?
I was supposed to have driving lessons this month but I've cancelled them..
I can't beleive that I was so excited to drive and get a new car but now..I don't want to.
Whenever my dad drives me to school,I get kinda terrified because I always imagine myself getting into an accident and die..

I just wonder if this will go away soon,because it's killing me.

[LaurenTheNerd]

I've had these thoughts many times and they often come back. I find the best thing to do is to try and battle these thoughts. I really think you should drive because if you let it get to you then it will start controlling everything you do.
Now, I personally don't believe that they can see you after they die but the constant thought that I might be having my final moments are there a lot of the time. I never feel safe no matter where I am. I pretty much see the potential to die in most situations which is pretty sad really.
I think you should block it out. Pretend it isn't there and tell yourself to stop being so silly. I understand and telling yourself it's stupid/not going to happen helps.

I'm so sorry to hear about your Aunt, my Aunt is also battling cancer and it's a terrible thing. R.I.P and I hope you feel better soon <3

[Arcanum]

@Shirai

Hey dear Al. I'm sorry to know about your aunt. I know how it feels to lose someone, and it's completely understandable that you feel the way you do. After all, life is a fragile thing, it can end at any time. But that doesn't mean you should panic over when it will end. I mean, if you stop living because you're afraid of dying, aren't you "dead" already?
Use the time you have to build great memories and enjoy every single minute. Don't let "What if...'s" trouble you. Just make the most of where you are so at the end you can say "It was worth it". Because life is worth living, if you are not afraid to enjoy it regardless of other factors.

About your aunt being able to see you. Well, that is a question I can't nor dare to answer. There is no possible way to know if she's really looking at you. But well, even if she is actually seeing you at this right moment, would she want you to stop your life because of her? Or would she prefer that you live and be happy? Wouldn't that make her happy back? I think it would be much more painful for her if she sees you suffering because of what happened.

You're still in shock, it's quite understandable. Speak to me on msn if you want to speak about this further dear. I'm here for you. <3

[Shirai]

Originally Posted by LaurenTheNerd

I've had these thoughts many times and they often come back. I find the best thing to do is to try and battle these thoughts. I really think you should drive because if you let it get to you then it will start controlling everything you do.
Now, I personally don't believe that they can see you after they die but the constant thought that I might be having my final moments are there a lot of the time. I never feel safe no matter where I am. I pretty much see the potential to die in most situations which is pretty sad really.
I think you should block it out. Pretend it isn't there and tell yourself to stop being so silly. I understand and telling yourself it's stupid/not going to happen helps.

I'm so sorry to hear about your Aunt, my Aunt is also battling cancer and it's a terrible thing. R.I.P and I hope you feel better soon <3

Thank you so much Lauren,that really helped me and cheered me up a bit
I hope your aunt gets better and I wish her all the best.

[Nobartholem]

I've lost a lot of people, and I've seen everyone mourn differently. My mother ignores it and cries by herself, my father stays quiet and broods to himself, my two brothers try to hide their tears, and I let it all out.

You're mourning, and life is a little screwy for a long time until you learn to move on. It takes a different amount of time per person. My grandfather still hasn't gotten over my grandmother's death and it's been two years.

[Shirai]

Originally Posted by Singularis

@Shirai

Hey dear Al. I'm sorry to know about your aunt. I know how it feels to lose someone, and it's completely understandable that you feel the way you do. After all, life is a fragile thing, it can end at any time. But that doesn't mean you should panic over when it will end. I mean, if you stop living because you're afraid of dying, aren't you "dead" already?
Use the time you have to build great memories and enjoy every single minute. Don't let "What if...'s" trouble you. Just make the most of where you are so at the end you can say "It was worth it". Because life is worth living, if you are not afraid to enjoy it regardless of other factors.

About your aunt being able to see you. Well, that is a question I can't nor dare to answer. There is no possible way to know if she's really looking at you. But well, even if she is actually seeing you at this right moment, would she want you to stop your life because of her? Or would she prefer that you live and be happy? Wouldn't that make her happy back? I think it would be much more painful for her if she sees you suffering because of what happened.

You're still in shock, it's quite understandable. Speak to me on msn if you want to speak about this further dear. I'm here for you. <3

Thank you John,you don't know how much that helped
me,I really apperciate it,and you seem right..
I always try to avoid thinking like this by making myself
distracted with anything,but when I'm not I get those feelings
back and they are like chasing me ):
but I'm trying to make myself feel better.

Originally Posted by Pokemon Master

I've lost a lot of people, and I've seen everyone mourn differently. My mother ignores it and cries by herself, my father stays quiet and broods to himself, my two brothers try to hide their tears, and I let it all out.

You're mourning, and life is a little screwy for a long time until you learn to move on. It takes a different amount of time per person. My grandfather still hasn't gotten over my grandmother's death and it's been two years.

My sister cried so hard when she heard about my
aunt's death,more than me,but I think she
got over it,and I don't see her sad anymore.
I find a bit strange,she was closer
to my aunt.

[samori]

You have to move on, it's part of the mourning phase, you will eventually get over it, don't worry