Hey guys and girls. Been quite a while since I've been on but the Marine Corps has had me all over the place recently and I've had zero time for anything. On to my problem and hopefully I can get some help here. Or maybe I just need some sense knocked into me.
So here's the issue. A girl and I dated for quite a while (over a year) and we broke up in February (thats 2011 of course) but I'll get back to that in a sec. I'm going to be completely honest here and not sugar coat any of this. She was FOR SURE my first true love (and she said the same to me, which I 100% believe). Right off the bat from the first time we met, we got along fantastically, and for the year after that was pretty smooth. By that I mean we RARELY argued or got mad at each other. I could guess we may have argued twice in the year+ we were together. We had so much in common and to make a long, long story short, I thought she was "the one". And to be completely honest I still do think that. Why did we break up? I have no idea. It was me that broke up with her but we had recently had one of those two arguments and at that point I had so much going on in my life I felt like I was just too loaded down, and it obviously got the better of me and that's what sucks the most, knowing it didn't have to happen. To make a long story even longer
it's been one of my biggest regrets in life to have broken up with her. And if you knew me IRL, you would know I have the outlook on life, like, "There are more fish in the sea" bla bla bla, but with her my brain is just not working that way. I haven't talked to her in about 4 months and it kills me. The thing is I joined the Marine Corps while we were still dating (still waiting to go to basic training) and it influenced her to do the same. She left for basic training in October if my brain serves me correctly and I leave on the 6th next month. With that time frame I think she should be back home in the next week or so. She has a whole dresser full of things that have been at my house since we broke up and shes never asked for them back (obviously the last 3 months shes been away but you get it). I know she has some sentimental things, like jewelry and what not still here that I will get back to her somehow because I'm definitely just not going to throw them out.
But here's what I'm here for....with the Marine Corps, after basic training you come back for 10 days (sometimes 30 depending on the situation) before leaving again to go to Marine Combat Training (30 days long). Do you think it's a good idea to get in contact with her within these 10-30 days or no? My situation with that is, I have NO IDEA what day she really comes back because I have no contact info with her, but if my timing is correct it's within the next week or two. I would like to get her stuff back to her as well as maybe have a talk about what happened to us and all that. The first thing on my mind is not to get back together with her but to at least apologize for being so stupid and getting some closure if anything. I've thought about even going to her house and asking her Aunt and Uncle what they think (she lives with them and they did like me being around). Doing this would be a tall task seeing as how they live 100 miles away, and yes we dated when she lived there and still saw each other every other day at least. I know I hurt her when we broke up so I feel like this is something I NEED to do. Ever since breaking up, I've tried dating a little bit, but it feels like I have to compare the current girl with my ex and doing that just really brings the bad out in everyone and it just sucks. I really just don't know how to go about doing this. Would it be a good idea at all to go talk to her aunt and uncle about this and figure out when she comes back so I can talk to her or no? I really just need to get all this out on the table and taken care of before I just go absolutely out of my mind lol. Sorry this was so long, I could've gone much longer but hopefully you get the jist of my situation. Thanks for reading and any help is greatly appreciated.
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