[ElleciaRose]

I am 15 years old, earlier this year I found out I was 9 week pregnant to my ex, I told my mum and she took me to the doctors for a surgical abortion as i knew i was to young to have and cope with a baby, I haven't even left school yet. But over the past few weeks I have been thinking about it and that it could have been the biggest mistake of my life, all i keep thinking about is how when I an older and ready for a baby, what if something happens for me not to be able to conceive. I wake up most nights from nightmares of this happening. I no I am being stupid but I just cannot help it :'( xxxxx
And the thing is now i really want a baby =/ x

[Panda]

Everything that happened happened for a reason. No one is meant to have a baby at fifteen. Try not to think about what could have been. You're meant to be a teenager right now, and enjoy the life you have while you're still young. It's too early to worry about having children and what's going to happen as an adult. You're lucky to still be a teenager and not have to worry about raising a baby. Try to be happy with the life you have.

[Marionetta]

Well, it's too late, it happened and there's no changing the past.
Sorry to sound harsh, but at least you know it was a mistake. So now what do you do? You learn from it.

Well, you don't know what you've got until it's already gone I suppose.

I really don't know what you expect any of us to say, there is no changing the past. All you can do is learn from it.
You know all you have to do is not get another abortion and you should be fine in the future when you want a child. The more abortions you have, the more unhealthy it is for your body.

Did you make the right choice? No, I won't attempt to console you by saying you did because I'm not a liar.
You could have taken care of the kid if you've tried hard enough, I know others younger than yourself who have. Or you could have easily had the kid and given it up for adoption.

About you wanting a kid it's probably your instincts. I hear it happens a lot with women who miscarry too. It also happens with women who get abortions who didn't totally want them but for whatever reason got them anyway.

And you're not being stupid. You regret it, it's called a conscience and it's coming out as a fear for your future.


...But that's just my take on it. Do I find it wrong, what you did? Yes.
But it happened, so learn from it. In other words, don't get pregnant again until you're ready.
And on the chance you can't conceive well... you can always adopt.

As a side note, I personally think if you feel you're old enough to have sex then do so then you're not a child anymore, because children don't have sex. So in a nutshell, if you feel you're old enough to act like an adult then you should deal with what happens responsibly. Be responsible like an adult.

[Sam1]

You've been thru a difficult situation here, and it's not surprising you've got some very difficult and complicated emotions about it. Give it some time, and try not to judge yourself or your situation too much.

It's not uncommon to have 'buyers remorse' after you've made a hard choice. The thing is, you made a choice/decision based on your situation and an assessment of your life at that time, it sounds like you thought it thru. Second guessing it at this point isn't a good idea simply b/c you're in a different (after the fact) place now. You have to trust the wisdom of your judgment when you made that choice in the first place.

Abortion is a complicated issue, it's not really just about 'Choice' or "Life"...either way, there are enormous emotions that go along with the decision. In your case (and as I've heard from others who have had abortions), there's this sense of loss....which is what you're responding to now.

Give yourself some time, be extra nice to yourself, and realize that this all isn't some 'punishment', that when the time is right, you'll be able to conceive and have that baby you want....just when you're ready.

[ART]

I am sorry to hear about your situation, hun. My situation is a little different so I can only offer so much advice. I am 8 weeks along and I understand the immediate bond that you can have with an unborn child. You need some time to mourn, to cry, it's very healthy and it's completely understandable. I don't know whether you decided or were more pushed into it by your parents but like others I won't say it was the wrong thing. It should have been your choice. In the long term it could be a good thing for you. As for wanting a baby, I would recommend please not doing that. Wait until you really are ready. I know that I can't talk because it's a bit hypocritical but you should not be trying to have a baby at that age. ((((hugs))))) I'm here if you ever need to talk.