[amandagarnett]

i really want a baby, its something i think about everyday and sometimes even cry about it... when i see people i know that are pegnant i just wish it could be me. im only 15 can anyone give there opinions and advice please xxx

[Kirk]

Wait.

Wait until you're in a stable relationship. Wait until you've finished school (and college and University if you plan going). Wait until you're able to support both yourself and the child.

It's all well-and-good wanting to have a child, but surely you don't want to have them grow up without their biological father? Surely you don't want your life ambitions to never come to fruition because you're too busy looking after the baby? Does having financial difficulties sound appealing to you?

Unfortunately, have a baby comes with huge responsibilities. I respect the fact that you want a child, but by waiting and preparing you'll be giving both yourself and the child a better life in the future.

EDIT:

Sorry, I didn't noticed it was girls only.

[Floxy]

I think many of us women all go through feelings of broodiness whatever age. I'm nearly 23 and already I'm clanging for one. But you are underage to have sex legally, and I daresay not mature enough to handle the immense responsibility of becoming a young mother. having a child costs a lot. And by this I mean you would have to forego your wants (laptop, iPhone, xBox or whatever) in favour of the money going towards your baby's care. And, your baby's father will have to forego the same of life's little luxuries. And, you will need to be in a very stable relationship.

I do feel for you, though. I do understand, really I do.

Maybe when you are older, then yes. But you want to enjoy this one and only chance of being a teenager. Don't grow up too quickly. Enjoy being young, having fun times partying, hanging out with mates because being a young mum will put an abrupt stop to that.

[amandagarnett]

thanks for the advice ..
i already have a job and i am in a stable relationship
and yes i know having a baby comes with huge responsibilities which i would obviously have to adapt to and would be prepared to do so.

[Floxy]

Originally Posted by amandagarnett

thanks for the advice ..
i already have a job and i am in a stable relationship
and yes i know having a baby comes with huge responsibilities which i would obviously have to adapt to and would be prepared to do so.

Then you are already halfway there.

[amandagarnett]

if i am already half way there.. what is the other half ?

[amandagarnett]

kirk .. it was girls only, but i changed it so its ok

[SparkleyCrystal]

The other half...is living your life first, leaving school and making sure you are definately in a stable relationship. Your 15 you need to grow and live a bit more first.

As broody as I am I know its not right for me.
-Yes I work and earn money...
-Yes I am in a stable relationship and I we have our own flat..

But no I want to travel, see the world. I want to party. I have the rest of my life to live before I become a mother.

[amandagarnett]

i understand what your saying, although im not the type of person that wants to go out and party...
im more of a family person, i hardly ever go out with friends, so i wouldnt want to party to be honest. and in my opinion i would say i am in a stable relationship.

[SparkleyCrystal]

Well I'm not either really I was just using it as an expression.

I'd use all the opportunities given to you first though. You'll b leaving school soon, right? Grab the opportunity to be educated to better yourself and give yourself more prospects for the future. So then when your older you'll be sure that you can support a child with maybe a bettter job or a life goal that you can work towards?

I didn't do good at college, i fudged up, big time. And even though I have job I'm still trying to improve. To give me a better future and maybe when the time is right a child a future...

Only my opinion (: