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fay · 03-05-11, 09:04 AM

Just wondering how many of you on this site are teen moms (or dads!)

Has having a child(ren) as a teen been difficult? What has your experience been like?

Starry · 03-05-11, 09:20 AM

Neveer. But my neighbour *Chloe did but she got her parents to look after her ''//

DeepDistress · 03-05-11, 09:25 AM

I sure hope you aren't going to try and do it.. Of course its hard, harder then a LOT then handle and it's just stupid to purposely have one, shouldn't even be having sex till like 18 . The fact you even ask if it's difficult makes me wonder..

fay · 03-05-11, 09:34 AM

Of course it's difficult, but it's difficult for people in different ways so I guess I'm more curious to know what exactly has been the hardest in your situation and how it played out.
It's just a question, lol. Nothing to get worked up about.

The last year in high school out of about 100 girls (very small school) there were about 7 pregnancies that I knew of.

Perfect Accident · 03-05-11, 10:06 AM

i am 19 and i am pregnant with twin boys

fay · 03-05-11, 10:26 AM

Awww, cute! I'm sure they'll be a lot of work though. My boyfriend's mom had twin girls right after we started dating...they're a handful! Do you have any support?

And congratulations!

Kirk · 03-05-11, 10:37 AM

Someone at my school got pregnant near her GCSE exams. Boyfriend left her and wanted nothing to do with the baby (at 'least, that's the impression I'm getting). They're relationship wasn't exactly stable before the pregnancy, so to be honest I think they're both stupid for having the child. I believe she has raised the kid practically by herself, with the support of her friends and family, but it's still difficult for her without the father. She also didn't have a job for a while and that was upsetting for her.

It's best not to get pregnant until you're 18+ and in a stable relationship, IMO. Fair play to those who take on the challenge though.

I know this post isn't exactly answering the OP's question, but it's some-what related and may be representative of someone else's on here's experience.

fay · 03-05-11, 11:39 AM

I agree with you kirk. I think it takes a lot to come together before people should try (stable job, savings, very stable relationship, an education, back up plan, place to live on your own) so I definately wouldn't suggest teens think about it. But it is possible for teen parents do very well (better than adults), not that I would advise anyone to try.

Individuality · 03-05-11, 01:39 PM

My friend has a 1 year old (he's 1 tomorrow!!) and is still with the father. She has her own house with her fiance and son.

Most teen are bad mums but there are teens who are amazing mums and anyone who disagrees with that then your blind.

Perfect Accident · 03-05-11, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by fay

Awww, cute! I'm sure they'll be a lot of work though. My boyfriend's mom had twin girls right after we started dating...they're a handful! Do you have any support?

And congratulations!

thanks

i do have a bit of support, but not too much.
they are already a handful!! haha