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hi I'm new here. I'm 18 single pregnant 14 weeks so I am feeling guilty for being this far along. But my parents are unstable. My dad is abusive. My mom has a mental illness. The guy I was with likes someone else. And most of all I'm not even a girl. I live as a guy and have an intersex disorder called cah. I have female reproductive organs but I have mostly male charcteristcs outwardly. I can't have it. Everyone would know I was a freak and it's not acceptable.. I know I can't be anyone's "mother" but I feel guilty about the procedure I just feel like crap now.
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I also have no job. Adoption is not really an option since being pregnant is the issue. People who know me think I'm just an average teenage boy. They don't even know I'm not straight. I mean the whole thing seems like something I have to do in order to not be seen as a freak. I just feel like shit because i,m so far along no one in this state or around it will do it. There's only one and I can't call til monday so plus I don't know if I'll be able to afford it. I hate myself for getting myself in this even though I didn't know I could get pregnant plus we were protected.
So you're going to kill your child because you were selfish to have sex and now don't want people looking at you funny? Perhaps you should have thought of that before getting in to bed with someone. Step up, take care of your responsibilities. You had sex, this is what happened. Killing something because people will look at you funny, is ridiculous. Suck it up, deal with it, don't worry about other people and put the child up for adoption. And not to mention, 14 weeks!? You know your child has finger prints by now, a beating heart, sensitive to the touch etc etc. It's like, seriously far along.
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I didn't even know I could get pregnant. Having sex isn't selfish. Think of it this way. People when confused sometimes turn violent that violence could be towards myself to be pregnant and a guy. That in turn could be violence against the kid. It's not the typical teen pregnancy deal. Or is it hard for your to understand my situation.
No it's not that hard I'm perfectly able to understand. Not able to get pregnant..? Obviously you have the right "junk" how could you miss that? it's one thing to not feel like that, but it's another thing to notice you have it.
And yes, it is selfish to go around and have sex as a teen and not care about the baby if something happens. And it's especailly selfish that you're not putting the baby up for adoption JUST because you don't want to be looked at funny.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
If you are transgendered or something like it people will already think you funny. Besides, you said that people think that you're a freak. How could you have sex if everyone thinks you're a freak.
Totally pushing aside the whole pregnancy abortion thing, wouldn't you assume that the parts you have work? If you're a female you're a female. You may have very masculine features but the parts you have WORK. that's not dictated by your physicality, but by your genetics.
No it's not that hard I'm perfectly able to understand. Not able to get pregnant..? Obviously you have the right "junk" how could you miss that? it's one thing to not feel like that, but it's another thing to notice you have it.
And yes, it is selfish to go around and have sex as a teen and not care about the baby if something happens. And it's especailly selfish that you're not putting the baby up for adoption JUST because you don't want to be looked at funny.
wrong you're mixing me up with being transgender. My doctor said I'd have to have treatment if even then I'd be able to have kids of my own. I have a condition that is supposed to stop that from hppening. I'm not transgender I just have an intersex condition. I took the precautions anyway. So stop saying I'm selfish when I had no idea this could happen. You don't understand stop ranting.
Okay well still, there's chances with those things. Condition or not, condom or not, mistakes happen. it's how you deal with it.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
katie is sort of right
you should be thinking about the baby not yourself, decide on whether or not to keep it based on what it's life will be like not on how people look at you
besides if no one in the state will do it then your decision is sort of made for you already
oh and zach it's a hormonal imbalance (correct me if im wrong) and the reproductive system relies hugely on hormones so it is reasonable to assume they wouldnt "work"
on a side note for future reference would you like to be referred to as male or female?
Most people that use condoms, diaphragms, pills, ect. to prevent conrtaception dont have an idea that something like that could happen (pregnancy) but it does.
You need to assume that your parts work.The doctor said that you probably wouldnt have kids. He said probably and not absolutely so you need to assume there is a chance that you will be able to get pregnant.
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