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I'm 19 weeks pregnant to a guy I had a one night stand with. My family, friends and the guy know about the pregnancy, it was tough to take in at first but everything is fine now.
I'm not with the father, it was a one night stand in February, and he's seeing someone else now, they are still together even though I'm pregnant, and I'm totally fine with that.
Lately I've been feeling down about the fact that I'm going to be a single mother, even though I have all the support I need.
Having a baby, should be with someone you love and are with. I guess I'm just feeling lonely, nobody to share this experience with.
I was in a relationship that ended last Sept, and I just miss having someone to love and care for.
Will I always be a single mother, with no partner? Will I always feel this alone?
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Life Is Not About Waiting For The Rain To Stop...But Learning How To Dance In The Rain
You won't always be alone, of course not.
And once you have that baby to hold in your arms, and have that 100% love and devotion to you no matter what.. that'll be a love no man could ever fill.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
You won't always be alone, of course not.
And once you have that baby to hold in your arms, and have that 100% love and devotion to you no matter what.. that'll be a love no man could ever fill.
That's what my friends and family have been saying.
They tell me that I will feel an amazing feeling of un-conditional love for my baby, of course, which I will.
But what about somebody to love me? A partner who I can love and turn to.
I have absolutely no doubts that I will love my baby more than anything else in the world, but I want to be in love too.
And they say it's harder for single mother's to find partners.
One of my friends actually asked me am I jealous that the father still has a relationship, even though he's having a baby with me. My answer, No.
I'm just feel down and depressed about the fact that, I'm having a baby on my own, and nobody to share it with.
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Life Is Not About Waiting For The Rain To Stop...But Learning How To Dance In The Rain
Yeah but you're not thinking about the love you will get FROM your baby.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
Yeah you will. you just have to wait, it's probably best you're not in one atm. You need to learn to be independent and have a bond of your own with your baby so it's just you two strong together. If youw ere with a guy it'd create a family type thing, and then if it doesn't work out.. it'd be really hard after. especailly on the child.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
I definaltey don't want a relationship at this time in my life now. My baby is my number 1 priority right now.
I'm confused at the minute, and I'm not really sure how to put down how I feel.
But as you said there, it would create a family type thing. And if it didn't work, yes it would be hard.
Is that how my life will be now, in the future?
I can spend the first few years bringing up my baby, learning him/her to crawl, walk, talk. Go to school and so on. But at some point in the future, I will want to be in love with someone again, and have somebody to love me.
I'm just scared of becoming a single mother all my life, and never having someone to be with.
(I know, I'm going on and on here to, but my hormones are all over the place)(sorry)
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Life Is Not About Waiting For The Rain To Stop...But Learning How To Dance In The Rain
It'll be easier because your child will be older and you can see people without the child knowing.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
There's a lot of sugar coating here, which might feel good, but isn't necessarily indicative of what you can expect.
Here's what we do know.
You will be a mom forever, it's lifetime employment, for better or for worse. It's going to be a lot harder doing this alone, without benefits from the father, you know that. It's good you've got support from family and friends, but at the end of the day, you're the mom, so the bulk of the responsibility (read: Commitment and sacrifice) will be yours. You should not expect a bolt of lightning representing the love from the child to strike you and give you the energy and motivation you need to continue. It goes the other way, actually. I hear until the child is at least 40. 50 if it's a girl. I'm joking, of course, but only with that last bit there.
No one knows what the future holds, but the best predictor of that is past performance, what you've done with your life in the past and what the result was. And, from your own admission (and a glance at your prior posts) your judgment hasn't been as keen as it needs to be. You'd do well to address that, the emotional part that seems to overwhelm reason. Patterns, once established, have a way of repeating themselves. You can prevent another pregnancy, but you might act out impulsively in other ways, bad judgment has a way of morphing that way.
You may or may not be alone forever, no one can predict that. Having a child, and being a single mom, esp at a young age (19) does limit the prospects, most guys your age aren't necessarily going to want the responsibility and lifestyle change that instant family require. And older guys might not want that, either. Maybe b/c they've been there, maybe b/c they've decided not to go there. So, you;ll have some additional work (and disappointments, too).
The good news is that relationships are much more about compatibility on deeper levels (like judgment!) then any 'life circumstance' like a child. The baby is a complication, you'll need someone who has similar values and ideals as you, but you'll also do well to address those other features that might keep those kinds of guys away!
By addressing that with more than words, you're better able to control your destiny. Otherwise, you might be the author of your own tragedy here, and no empty statements of support will get you where you want to go.
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