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Teen Pregnancy and Childcare ForumDiscuss teen pregnancy, childcare, teens trying to conceive, ovulation, fertility charting, giving birth and seek all related help and advice.
So, I just found out I'm pregnant with my boyfriends child, somehow both my birth control pills and a condom were not enough to stop this determined little spermie. We've been together two years, I'm 16, he's 21. by my approximated due date he'll be 22 and I'll be 17. I know he could get into a lot of trouble for this, as the california age of consent is 18, but he and I were planning on eventually getting married so my question is, if we get married before the baby is born, can he still get in trouble?
Thanks,
Evie.
he could because it would be able to be proven when the child was conceived. but, do your parents know and how do they feel about it?
likely the only way he would get in trouble is if your parents pressed charges. technically he could even if they didn't, but the chances of that happening are extremely rare.
Have you told your parents yet? As Tiffany has said, he can still be charged because you were under 18. I'd have a serious talk with your parents and figure out what to do next.
So, I just found out I'm pregnant with my boyfriends child, somehow both my birth control pills and a condom were not enough to stop this determined little spermie. We've been together two years, I'm 16, he's 21. by my approximated due date he'll be 22 and I'll be 17. I know he could get into a lot of trouble for this, as the california age of consent is 18, but he and I were planning on eventually getting married so my question is, if we get married before the baby is born, can he still get in trouble?
Thanks,
Evie.
Getting married doesn't get rid of the fact that it's statutory rape, and it also doesn't get rid of the fact that you're 16 and having a baby! Don't have sex next time, you can't rely on technology for such a huge part of your life.
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However, he can still be charged with statutory rape since you are underage and will still be underage when you receive this baby. I recommend you speaking with your parents about this issue. If you and him feel as if you two are ready to be married at a very young age, you should. You shouldn't run away from your problems or his by getting married. It won't solve anything. It can still be proven as mentioned before.
Just because you used a condom and birth control does not 100% mean you're incapable of getting pregnant. You still can become pregnant as you've said now. I recommend you speaking with your parents as mentioned before and discussing issues/concerns you may have.
As for your boyfriends issue, I would recommend talking to him about your pregnancy if he doesn't already know.
As everyone else said, it's statutory rape. Nothing won't change that, especially marriage.. Your 16 and he is 21 and that is just completely wrong! and of course, a condom nor birth control guarantee that it'll be 100% effective for you not to get pregnant. And as the question has been asked, do your parent's know about your relationship with him?
Yes, My mother knows. She's upset with me, but she won't press charges on him because she has known about our relationship from the beginning. As I have already graduated high school (yes, I graduated two years expedited), finishing basic education isn't a problem. He's freaked out but he's promised to stay with me. I'm more worried about the hospital filing a report because in the state of California they can legally do that, but if we're married, could they still do that? Or should I just claim I don't know who the father is and sound promiscuous?
i don't want to give false advice, but i doubt the hospital will file anything. do you know how many guys would be being arrested if they did?
getting married wouldn't make it any different because they would still know the date you got married and the date you conceived the child. so don't rush in to get married just because you think it will "help"
i wouldn't recommend claiming you don't know who the father is. you are going to want him there with you through that time and the delivery of his child. and you will want his name on the birth certificate.
you've finished school, ya'll have been together for 2 years, while i'm not saying this is an ideal situation, it's not the worst either. goodluck with everything!
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