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i am 17, 18 in 4 weeks. i have just found out that i am 8 weeks pregnant to a guy who i was only seeing for 4 months. i was not on the pill, and we never used condoms because he said that he didnt like using them. i know that was very stupid of me, and i take responsibilty for being stupid. i have told him, and he has said he wants absolutely nothing to do with it, and he takes no responsibility whatsoever, and blames it all on me. he has become very nasty and sending me threatening messages, telling me that i should get an abortion or he will make my life hell. he is nearly 28, and i cannot believe the way he is acting.
i have told my mum and dad, and they have both said that they will support me no matter what. i just dont know what to do now! i have always been against the thought of abortion and i know that i will regret it for the rest of my life. i think that i will be able to bring this child up perfectly well and will do my best, its just going to be very hard. i just want to know what peoples opinions are?
Well dear, it doesn't matter how many opinions are stated here, only you can make such a choice.
Both roads, abortion and child raising have their ups and downs, one harder than the other, and such. Although this issue is, as we know, very taboo as people's beliefs and values vary so it doesn't matter what choice you make, there will be people who disagree with you.
But it doesn't matter here who agrees or disagrees with you, what do you want to do? What do you feel you're capable of? What is the best option for you to deal with this situation?
Think to yourself, and make your choice, by yourself. Regardless of your choice, we people on TeenForumz will support you, and you can feel free to come back with any questions or advice requests.
About the threat messages, I urge you to show your parents these messages. We do not want you or anyone close to you in danger.
Best of luck my dear. I hope I helped.
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i am 17, 18 in 4 weeks. i have just found out that i am 8 weeks pregnant to a guy who i was only seeing for 4 months. i was not on the pill, and we never used condoms because he said that he didnt like using them. i know that was very stupid of me, and i take responsibilty for being stupid. i have told him, and he has said he wants absolutely nothing to do with it, and he takes no responsibility whatsoever, and blames it all on me. he has become very nasty and sending me threatening messages, telling me that i should get an abortion or he will make my life hell. he is nearly 28, and i cannot believe the way he is acting.
i have told my mum and dad, and they have both said that they will support me no matter what. i just dont know what to do now! i have always been against the thought of abortion and i know that i will regret it for the rest of my life. i think that i will be able to bring this child up perfectly well and will do my best, its just going to be very hard. i just want to know what peoples opinions are?
Firstly; the father is a complete dickhead and it would probably be best for you to sever all contact with him. He is irresponsible, childish, selfish and cruel - you don't need him in your life.
At the end of the day it's up to you alone to make the choice of whether or not to keep the baby. Your parents have already expressed their desire to support you and the child "no matter what", so you should take comfort knowing that. You need to be aware, however, that you will not be able to live a "normal" young adult life as you will have more responsibilities as a parent (that isn't to say you won't be able to have fun though)!
I think you should carefully evaluate the situation and then make a decision.
Honestly, you're young.
You will be unable to finish school, work to support your child and be able to afford child care all by yourself and it's wrong to burden your parents or others with the mistakes you have made.
IMO you should either abort it or give it to a stable family (both financially,mentally and emotionally) who can give it absolutely every opportunity it deserves.
It would be selfish of you to try to keep it at your age simply because you don't want to give it up or abort it because you simply do not have the means at your age to raise a child independently.
You have the rest of your life to have kids with someone you care about deeply.
i am 17, 18 in 4 weeks. i have just found out that i am 8 weeks pregnant to a guy who i was only seeing for 4 months. i was not on the pill, and we never used condoms because he said that he didnt like using them. i know that was very stupid of me, and i take responsibilty for being stupid. i have told him, and he has said he wants absolutely nothing to do with it, and he takes no responsibility whatsoever, and blames it all on me. he has become very nasty and sending me threatening messages, telling me that i should get an abortion or he will make my life hell. he is nearly 28, and i cannot believe the way he is acting.
i have told my mum and dad, and they have both said that they will support me no matter what. i just dont know what to do now! i have always been against the thought of abortion and i know that i will regret it for the rest of my life. i think that i will be able to bring this child up perfectly well and will do my best, its just going to be very hard. i just want to know what peoples opinions are?
First of all, we cannot make the decision for you, as its your baby, but i'm sure we're all here to help
No offence, but what the father is doing is acting like an immature idiot. Even if he doesn't want a kid, there is no way on earth you should act like that. Its as much his fault as it is yours, you are both responsible for making the child and whvt hes doing is completely unacceptable. But unfortunately it happens all over the country. Taking care of a baby is big responsibility, as a single parent it will be very hard, but if you have the ones you love supporting you, then that can make life a whole lot easier. If the father starts harrasing you whilst you have the baby, i would inform the police, as that would be whats best for the child.
You're old enough to take responsibility for your actions.
IMO you should have known this could happen and should have been ready to take care of a child if you got pregnant, your 18, not 14.
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Please do not abort )': !
It is your choice, I give you that.
But please either put it up for adoption or keep it.
I am only 14, and I have chose to keep my baby. I am now due in November and me and my boyfriend couldn't be more excited.
Please do not kill this baby, give it a chance at life?
I'm here for you for whatever choice you do make though <3
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