[RileyR]

Hi I dont if this emergency or not but I just need an un biased opinion for this so even I am in the wrong please tell me. I have 15 months twin baby girls
My ex boyfriend/baby daddy has seen the twins maybe 5 or 6 times in their whole lives. About a week ago he asked me to bring them over for his grandma's birthday and I did. While I was there I was talking to his mom and told her that I was considering going out of state for college. The next night my ex called me screaming that I'm not taking his kids anywhere and he was suing for custody. And he is. I am have been missing class for all these court days. It's ridiculous. He doesn't pay me child support and I never asked for it because he decided he did not want to be a part of our lives and I don't want him to be anymore. I talked an attorney from legal aid and he told me that if my ex gets any kind of custody even just visitation he can refuse to let me take the twins out of state wtf! Thats insane to me I have no idea what to do

[monie5251996]

Keep talking to the legal aid. Can you provide proof that he hasn't really been a part of their lives? Maybe a text saying he didn't want anything to do with your twins? If this goes to trial, you are going to need this to prove you didn't just deny him custody out of spite. I know about this since my parents are fighting over custody of my sister and myself?

[Individuality]

Maybe he can see his kids with a supervisor and gradually take it from there, every child needs a father and in many years your going regret not giving him that chance, try and get joint custody, that you can concentrate on college work and he can still see his children through a legal route.

[HDF]

I agree with the fact that proof will make worlds of difference in this case. If you have anything, a phone message, text, e-mail anything that would be very helpful. As for the rest i wish you the best.

Originally Posted by Individuality

Maybe he can see his kids with a supervisor and gradually take it from there, every child needs a father and in many years your going regret not giving him that chance, try and get joint custody, that you can concentrate on college work and he can still see his children through a legal route.

if he decided that he didn't want to be in there lives then there is no reason to let him see them let alone have any sort of custody. The reason he is freaking out is the same reason many guys freak out. They aren't going to have a say in anything and even though they don't care they want some sort of say. Well i think the moment you decide you don't want to be in their life you forfeit the right to an opinion on the matter.

[Individuality]

Originally Posted by HDF

if he decided that he didn't want to be in there lives then there is no reason to let him see them let alone have any sort of custody. The reason he is freaking out is the same reason many guys freak out. They aren't going to have a say in anything and even though they don't care they want some sort of say. Well i think the moment you decide you don't want to be in their life you forfeit the right to an opinion on the matter.

The OP said that he didn't want the kids to go, therefore he can fight for his kids to stay in the state, yet if they were to come to a decision where he can have supervised access and then mvoe on from there, it would be better for everyone.

[Kryptonite]

This could work out for you, because if he wants to see the kids, now he has to pay child support. I would countersue for lack of child support, at at least use that as a valid arugment. Continue using legal counsul, but also try joint custody.

[RileyR]

Thanks for the advice everybody it is nice to hear everyone's opinion and I will take them all into consideration.

[Ephemeral]

As a mother, you have the advantage. You have the natural custody of the case. And (I'm just speculating here) based on his actions, I'm not sure he can gain custody rights. Take it to court and don't worry about it. Although, it all depends on who he is as a person. If he's generally a well tempered and behaved man who has no dangerous tendencies he will probably get at least visitation rights. But you do have the advantage. Just work with your legal aide. It will work out in the end.

[Bia]

I think you should still get child support, regardless if you want to be with him or not. The money is for your kids. God forbid you couldn't work to support them. I think you should do that first and go from there.

[RileyR]

Yeah thats a good way to look at it