[DeepDistress]

I also highly highly highly like want to force you to look into some of the methods on how they actually abort babies... It's one thing to have it done and not really know, and then later find out how horrible the method could have been that you had done and have to live with that for your life.. some are really barbaric. So please, if you are looking into abortion please look at the methods, especially the salt on where they burn the baby from the inside and out.. there's stories of it take over an hr and a half for it to kill the baby completely. *shudders* human race scares me sometimes... But yeah, just make sure if you do know enough about abortion if your looking into it, though i think you should keep it or adoption.

[kate_]

thank you all, i'm still unsure where i stand on this.

[bailaenlanoche]

Many women after terminate suffer for depression. I think that terminate can spoil your plans more than baby. When your mother support you, i think she will help you with baby! Your boyfriend never undesrstand what he's going to do you, when he will press to you.

[Perfect Accident]

if you know that you cannot handle a child (physically, mentally, financially, etc) i think you should choose adoption. from what i have read, your mum will help support you. it is hard being a single mum. i know. there are many things that need to be addressed: do you work? do you have a stable relationship with your family? do you have the time for a baby? etc.. i do not think that you should terminate just because your bf told you to. my bf at the time when i got pregnant the first time, we had been together about a year, and he forced upon me an abortion. of which i refused. it is ultimately your decision. dont let him push you around. (if that is the case). give him time, and he may come around. it took my daughters father pretty much my whole pregnancy to come around, now he wants to be a part of her life.

there is a lot to think about.
message me, add me on yahoo/msn if you would like to talk more

[MontrealRepresent]

Don't abort. If you don't want the baby just put it up for adoption. But I'm sure you can manage, especially when you have the support of your mother and being in your last year of school, where there are no doubt certain programs and daycares which would take care of your baby while you're in school, like somebody else said. Talk to your boyfriend about it, if he doesn't want to help you support the baby, smother him with a pillow and throw him into a river. (That was me kidding btw, don't do that, it wouldn't be good o.o)

[Kryptonite]

Guys, lets all stop forcing our opinions down other people's throats. Kate, whatever decision you choose is great. However, like Nicole said, don't let your boyfriend force you into doing something you don't want to do. If you want to abort, fine. Forget all of the pictures that Kate (DeepDistress) is trying to force upon you. Sure, they're slightly gruesome, but if thats the best option for you, go ahead and do it. It like not having sex because you're scared to get herpes.

I personally believe adoption is the best choice; however, I'm a stupid 15 year old boy from Florida. If your mother wishes to support you, and if you want to make the commitment and make your child's life as happy as you possibly can, I see no problem keeping it. On the subject of schooling, you can always have your mother watch the baby during the day, and then come home at night. It will be hard, but if you want to keep your baby, that's your best bet.

At the end of the day, you're carrying the baby. At this point, dump your boyfriend. He doesn't care enough for you or the baby to even stick around, so he's dead-weight.

Let us know what you choose. Whatever you pick is alright with all of us on here.

[Caer]

What you need to remember is that at the end of the day, it's your choice and nobody has the right to persecute you for whatever it is that you choose to do.


That being said, If you keep it, do you have the means to raise it independently? Because it really isn't fair for you to place the burden on others to support YOUR child. Having a child young can throw a wrench in all your plans. You may never get to fulfill certain dreams of yours and that's something you'll have to accept and if you DO fulfill them, you'll have to work a hell of a lot harder and probably wait a hell of a lot longer to do it and you'll face many struggles along the way. However, raising a child I hear can be a rewarding experience.

Secondly, Abortion. It's not a well liked subject and unfortunately people will label you and try to shove their beliefs and opinions down your throat on this subject.
Ignore them. It's a perfectly viable option in any situation. That being said, it's not the easy way out. It' can be a very difficult choice to make as well and it takes a very responsible, mature person to be able to make a choice like this.

Lastly, Adoption. I myself don't much agree with this one usually. There's millions of children in the system already who need a loving home but unfortunately everyone shops for children like they shop for cars. I wouldn't wish this on any child who isn't considered to be genetically perfect and healthy and of the right racial descent, but it can still be a good option if you are able to pick out a family beforehand. However, many women can't go through with it once they give birth which leads you back to the first option, and I speak from secondhand experience(from my own adoptive parents) when I say it will break the hearts of the family who want to adopt it if you don't go through with it.

Personally though, I'd like to see adoption in cases like this being kaboshed to allow other children a chance to be adopted who otherwise, won't be.

But it's your choice and just a word of advice;
95%+ of the people who post in threads like these are not worth listening to because they will only blabbler on about the options that reflect their own personal beliefs. Those aren't the people you want to listen to. Look for the unbiased advice that informs you have the pros and cons of all choices, such as mine does and I'm sure a couple other people of intelligence and unbiased advice givers will give you.

[Caer]

fml double post.

[Lily]

If you want to keep your baby, then you should keep it. If your boyfriend does not want the baby and if he does decide he won't be apart of their life, as sad as it does sound, you'll know you did the right thing as it was what you wanted to do

[Ashleii15]

Heey Kate. You can't listen to anyone but yourself when it comes to this. If your boyfriend told you to get an abortion, and you don't want to.. You can't let him make up your mind.
I am 14 and 38 weeks pregnant. At the beginning my boyfriend and I didn't know what to do, he thought of abortion, but all the way through I never really wanted one, nor did I want to put it up for adoption. Well, now I am happy and excited to be having our son in about 11 days if he cooperates. My boyfriend is also very excited now (: I don't know what we would have done if we decided to abort him. It hurts me to even think about it, and I didn't even do it.
Just make sure what you choose is the right choice for you. It's your body, your baby, your choice. Your mom is going to support you either way.
Good luck. <3