[kate_]

Hi there,
My name is kate, i'm new to the forum,i'm 20 years old, i was on another form but you were not allowed to discuss any alternative other than to keep your baby. I'm currently 4 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend has clearly voiced if this ever should happen he wants it terminated. I thought i did too now i dont know, my mom says whatever i choose will be okay with her. I just need some advice right now, i'm going through a lot and i also dont know what we are allowed to post on here, i read the rules and it didnt say anything about posting this. Thanks so much for reading

[Gray]

Hello Kate , my personal Opinion is that you should keep the baby , Im sure you will be glad you didnt terminate it when you give birth to it , Giving birth is a Miracle!

Thats just me have fun

[Starry]

Hey Kate I'm pretty sure you're allowed to post this
To be honest, as it's your baby, and you're carrying it, I think you should choose and don't just do what your boyfriend wants you to do. It's up to you if you think you can manage, you're mum said she'll be fine with whatever decision, so if you keep the baby you know she will be there for you! I'd also try talking to your boyfriend about it, he may have just said because it didn't really happen or he may have not really thought it through.
But remember, do what you want but what you think is right

[kate_]

Originally Posted by Gray

Hello Kate , my personal Opinion is that you should keep the baby , Im sure you will be glad you didnt terminate it when you give birth to it , Giving birth is a Miracle!

Thats just me have fun

i wish it were that easy, if i keep it my boyfriend will leave me and i'll be a single mom, i can't do it on my own

@Starry
yes my mom will always support me, i'm in my last year of university and wanted to go to teachers college after, i'mnot sure a baby fits in with my plans

[Starry]

As I've said, it is up to you. As you're mum said she can help, and if you speak to your boyfriend and he agrees, it could be possible. However, if that's not an option it may seem a shame to throw away you're future. But, on the other hand, it is another life. But if you can't cope, and it means throwing away you're future, then... It may be unfair on your baby.
This is a really hard situation to be in. But I'd honestly speak to your boyfriend about it, things may become clearer.

[kate_]

Originally Posted by Starry

As I've said, it is up to you. As you're mum said she can help, and if you speak to your boyfriend and he agrees, it could be possible. However, if that's not an option it may seem a shame to throw away you're future. But, on the other hand, it is another life. But if you can't cope, and it means throwing away you're future, then... It may be unfair on your baby.
This is a really hard situation to be in. But I'd honestly speak to your boyfriend about it, things may become clearer.

thank you

[Sunday's Fantasy]

I think you should keep that baby. If you terminated it, you would regret your decision in the future. Baby is the greatest miracle which could happen to you.
If your boyfriend tell you that you should terminate it, he's not mature enough for being father. That's silly. He should have known that sex makes a new life and contraception doesn't protect you guys for 100%.
Just think about it. Baby's not a stuff which one you could throw up if it disturbs you or your boyfriend. A lot of girls want have a child but they're not able to be pregnant.

[Starry]

No problem, good luck in whatever you decide

[DeepDistress]

Well, to me first of all it already sounds like you're not going to be prepared for the emotional part of abortion, So i think you should really think this through, and be set in what you want. Aborting is a really difficult thing to do, it's killing a life. and a life that is part you, your genetics, your baby. even if you don't want to keep the child, abortion can still have really horrible effects on you.

Another thing, your boyfriend... if you were to chose to keep the baby do you actually really want to be with a guy who won't support you and that? It's HIS child, even if it doesn't fit into "his plans" he should suck it up and at least help you support the child and raise them, if he just walks out on you he seems like one hell of a good guy...*cough* he should love you regardless.

With your college, if you do decide to keep the child it's a good thing you're done with your first years of college, it's easier to raise a child and go to graduate school. Not to mention there's programs or daycares that watch your child while you are in classes. And you wouldn't be on your own, like you said your mom is going to support you. But even if you don't have people supporting you, the love you will have for your child if you keep it will give you unbelievable passion and drive to do what you need to to take care of the child. one you see them and know them and all that, it's like their instant the most important thing in your life and you could never imagine it any other way. But there's always adoption too.

There's another single mom on here who's got a girl named Skye and is pregnant with twins. you could try talking to her, I'm sure she'd be happy to. Her username is @BrokenDreams

[Gray]

if your bf leaves you means he is not mature enough and doesnt love you... When your lady gets pregnand you support her ... You should think of the baby... what do you want to do? want to kill the baby in your body?