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Joking.
btw some funnies with my ex talking about sign language.
Robert says
You can do iiiiiiiiit
I'll even give you a freebie!
To say "kill,"
take your fist,
Kate Fallen says
add a knife to it
then stab someone
:3
oh gosh imma suck at being a sign language mom
XD
Robert says
Yeah you're going to be a very irresponsible one..
XD
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Kate Fallen says
i know some of the easy ones!
Robert says
Well what else do you know?
Kate Fallen says
i also know fuck you in sign language
:3
XDDDD
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
I personally don't think it makes you selfish.
And ASL isn't that hard. I took it and while I was learning it constantly i retained it well... then i forgot most of it.
Still, it's not that hard.
Meh, I grew up around deaf people. Deaf people who don't know ASL and could only read lips... until they started going blind that is. Now we have to type or write out everything.
It's not selfish if you can communicate. It's selfish if you're just forcing yourself into it because you believe it to be the right thing int it - if you're not ready that is. In which case that's like doing a good deed simply because it's seen as a good deed and not because you really care. Know what I mean?
However I don't think that's the case with you.
So long as you prepare yourself and are prepared to teach the child ASL (because you might just have to) and be prepared to send them to a special school if they are totally deaf. Or if not a special school then they'll be stuck in special ed most of their life for obvious reasons.
But that depends on the school itself of course.
But ASL itself isn't all that hard. There's basics to everything. I found numbers the hardest though. But that's just me.
All in all though, it's really not selfish if you can handle it. If you know you can't handle it and are not willing to work hard for it, then it would be selfish.
Shout, Shout, Let it all Out, These are the Things I Can do Without You Shouldn't Have to Jump for Joy, You Shouldn't Have to Shout for Joy
They Give You Life and in Return You Gave 'em Hell As Cold as Ice - No Bitch, You're Ice Ice Baby I Hope We Live to Tell the Tale, I Hope We Live to Shout the Tale
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I think people should just stop shopping for kids like they shop for a car.
Who cares what disability they do and don't have? Stop being picky, take what you're given and be fucking happy with it.
Yes, but at the same time when your CHOOSING to adopt you should be smart enough to pick a disability you know you could handle and do well with. When you adopt a special needs child, or have one of your own there's so many more things that they have to deal with and go through that the ordinary child doesn't go through, you should be sure you can handle all those things, be willing to learn the things you need to help that child etc etc. I'm not just fucking shopping for a child, that's disgusting and I'm highly offended (which is a bloody rare thing for me) that you said that. If you actually read, my first post at all you would see I'm struggling to see if this is the right thing to do, I already feel horrible so for you to say that I'm just being a horrible person and like I'm shopping for a child? I think it's uncalled for. It's obvious that I'm not just running out and shopping for one. I'm putting a lot of time and thought into this to see if I would be able to care for the child and make a decent life for it. You have to think with a lot of disabilities, especially deaf, most deaf people don't hear OR talk. That's them completely cut out from a lot of the world, So it would be careless and shopping for a child if i just walked into a adoption place and pointed to the child i want. But I'm NOT shopping for once because I'm thinking about it and looking into it to make sure I would and could be willing to give the CHILD a good life. And yes you offended me, but you know what? I'm glad you did. It just proves I have more drive and passion to be able to do the right thing by this child. SO thank you.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
Last edited by DeepDistress; 09-10-11 at 12:39 PM..
I think people should just stop shopping for kids like they shop for a car.
Who cares what disability they do and don't have? Stop being picky, take what you're given and be fucking happy with it.
Really?
Just because you think that people should stop shopping for children doesn't mean that they're going to. Most people are going to be choosy, ESPECIALLY when it comes to a child with disabilities. The cold hard truth is that a lot of people don't want kids with disabilities, as sick as that is. They want their perfect child and nothing less.
To a lesser extent than the above, some people are simply not prepared, nor do they have the ability and resources available to care for a child with disabilities.
Whilst I agree that people should be happy with what they get, I think it's quite selfish to ADOPT a kid with a disability knowing that you aren't prepared and/or willing to provide that child with the best quality of life. Obviously, it's a little different if the child is born to you with a disability.
Raising a child with a disability takes time, patience, love, funds, endless resources, and a huge heart. Some people just aren't cut out for it. The thought that a child with a disability being thrown at a person/couple unwillingly scares me. Some people have no business dealing with special needs children.
I think you should go for it, Kate. I think it's an admirable thing to do, coming from a person with a disability myself.
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