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well my babygirl is not even born yet she's barely 16 weeks fetal age. But it already seems so bleak and I kind of feel like I'd almost like to disconnect. Because I feel helpless about it. Neither of us are at all ready and not because of money. My dad said he doesn't care what happens but he can't help. And no one agrees on adoption it just seems so bad and it's like what am I there to be involved if I have no control? Idk.....
Re: I'm feeling like my daughter has a bleak future?
Are her parents being supportive?
Does she want the child?
It's going to seem bleak now but just have hope and be strong, you can change her life and make it better when she is born. You cannot just give up you don't have that choice anymore, you're the father. It's just new and hard. But over time you will learn to cope better.
Edit: idk if you're the father or the mother, who's keeping you from adoption? If you are the mother and you don't want to abort it DON'T that can mess you up for life. Do you want to put it up for adoption? how do YOU feel about it?
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Re: I'm feeling like my daughter has a bleak future?
Should've stocked up on the contraceptives man; you're only 14. But yeah, if you're dads not willing to help then whatever. You'll have to see what her parents think. If they're the same as your dad then you're going to have to put it up for adoption. Two 14 year olds (I'm assuming your girlfriend is as well) aren't going to be able to take care of a baby.
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Re: I'm feeling like my daughter has a bleak future?
Sup mate,
Yeah, no glove, no love for next time. Its an unfortunate accident, that's for sure. I'm not sure what I would do here. If your folks can't help support the baby, then you'll have to turn towards her parents. If they can't, adoption, or abortion, are your only steps.
I'm sorry it has to come to that, mate, but you gotta stay in school.
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Re: I'm feeling like my daughter has a bleak future?
Just go with it. There's not much you can do really if your dad is all whatever. What about her parents?
I hope you get through this, I think you need to come up with some way to support yourselves if you keep it and talk to your parents about getting help.
Next time you have sex and you don't want a baby; use a condom.
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Originally Posted by LaurenTheNerd
Just go with it. There's not much you can do really if your dad is all whatever. What about her parents?
I hope you get through this, I think you need to come up with some way to support yourselves if you keep it and talk to your parents about getting help.
Next time you have sex and you don't want a baby; use a condom.
she's not my gf. It was only a one nightstand and I know I should've been protected. But I was drunk. She's 16 btw. I don't like young girls.
it's just that at first it was ok her mom sided with me and she really had no choice because she could never raise with the mental state she is in. She doesn't have a dad. Only a mom who doesn't work lives off the government. She says she's recoveredfrom drugs for a year. I don't trust her family nor mine. It's just now her mother (mellissa's mom) changed her mind and now I kind of feel like it's so bleak because my daughter will be raised by her grandmother who isn't a very good environment. If I can't make choices for my own child and she's being in a home I don't even approve of idk how this can be good. I feel like we're all a mess and I don't see any of us can give what she deserves and it's frustrating that this is her potential home.
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@justme1119, that is extremely stupid what you did, and I hope you can learn to hold you alcohol better. I think you should seriously consider consulting with Melissa about what she wants... But honestly, adoption or abortion, mate. I wouldn't try to raise the baby in such an unstable enviornment.
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*rubs eyes*
are you sure you're 14?
oh my...youre in quite the predicament.
There is no turning back now. There is NO right thing to do here. Nothing will make this better. The only things that can be done will make it manageable. Adoption leaving the mother unhappy for her life, or raising a child that is doomed to fail.
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