[sarassanctum]

Hi everyone, my name is Sara and I just wanted to share my story (short version) with you all. It might help a lot of you with the hard decision of abortion and pregnancy.

When I was 15, I fell in love. Or, at least I thought I did at the time. His name was Mike and he was sooooo cute! I could go on and on about the first weeks after we started dating, but isn't important. Lets just say that I though we would be together forever.

5 months later..... I'm pregnant:( We were so careful, but it didn't matter, cause in the end you just can't be 100% in control, just like Dr. Ian Malcolm told us in Jurassic Park "Life finds a way". So, now I have a very very important choice to make... Do I keep it, or do I get an abortion?

I chose the latter. I told my Mom and she and I decided I should go through with the abortion. I think the decision was mostly hers, but i felt I had no choice at that age, so I went through with it.

Im trying to keep this story short, but I must mention this, as it is extremely important. For the last 3 years i have not had a single day go by without thinking back to that day. So often I think about what my life would be like now if only i chose to have the baby. And every time i come back to reality I am heartbroken.

I know people handle things differently, and for some it may be something never thought about again as a regret. But for me, it was the biggest mistake of my life. And I have to live with that for the rest of my life.

On to present time now... I have a daughter! I got pregnant again at 17, but absolutely knew I wanted to keep this one! The decision of keeping her was the best decision I have ever made! Her name is Christina and is a year old now. She is just the cutest girl I could have ever imagined!

Her dad took off when he found out I was pregnant, but that's no matter. My family is great with her, and does so much for us I could never pay them back. My dad still doesn't know about me getting pregnant the first time, but he was surprisingly supportive through this last pregnancy. I am living a dream life right now cause of this little girl.

To all you girls out there facing the decision on abortion or even just worried about being a Mom at so young, let me just say this... It is so worth it!!! I could never describe in words how so worth it it is! This last year was the best year of my life. If you have a loving family, trust me, you will be fine.

As for preparing for Motherhood, this one book was so much help. It was written for teens and is all about what to expect. It covers every aspect of pregnancy including sex, abortion and all the beginning parts of being a mom. I would recommend this book to anyone. It is called: Teenage Pregnancy and Parenthood. I found a link for it at: LINK REMOVED

I hope this little story helps some of you girls out there. All you need in life are people that care about you. With that, anything can be overcome!

[Caer]

I also got an abortion.
I was 19 and the guy i was with is now my husband and we're very much in love. We have been since we first started dating.

At the time, it was just an awful situation to bring a child into financially and I do not once wish that I had chosen to keep it or at least carry it to term despite how difficult the decision might have been at the time.(Although honestly, for me it wasn't THAT difficult. It just seemed like the logical thing to do)

Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that it was Me making my own decision Vs. you having that choice made for you(for the most part) by your mother.
We'll never know.
However no matter what choice a pregnant girl chooses, none of them are easy to make or easy to live with usually.



Anyway, thanks for sharing

[LaurenTheNerd]

Thank you for sharing.

I really can't imagine how difficult this must have been for you but I'm really glad you're doing fine now. Good luck!

[Ephemeral]

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad that things are looking up for you.

[Armooo]

I cant imagine how you feel but what you have to think, you probley wouldn't have your little girl if you would have had your first baby. Every clous has a silver lining as they say
I lost a baby, 2 years ago last december and not one day goes by where I dont think about what could have been, but I now have a gorgeous 8 month old baby girl!

[GoldenGirl]

Gosh, your story comes straight from the heart....Thank you so much for sharing it with us.

[Nobartholem]

I'm glad you find love in this little girl of yours. Let this be a lesson to someone contemplating abortion. Or something to consider, anyways

[Tehleach]

I'm glad to hear things are going well for you now, it does suck to hear the father took off after he found out you got pregnant but as long as you are happy and you're getting the support you need then keep up the smiles

One point I must personally argue however is this

"To all you girls out there facing the decision on abortion or even just worried about being a Mom at so young, let me just say this... It is so worth it!!!"

I think this is more a matter of opinion, sure having your own little kid looking up at you with a loving look in their eye may be the best feeling ever, but having a baby at any age until you are financially sound can be pretty risky, so let me just say this:

To all those girls out there who really want a baby, are sexually active or are considering trying for a baby, please please please make sure you have the means to cover for that child financially, if your gut tells you your parents are likely to throw you out and not support you throughout the pregnancy and the upbringing of the child please take the necessary precautions to stay baby free. Nobody wants to have to give up their child due to lack of support.

Thanks for reading

TLDR: If you can't support the baby - Don't have one.

[bowchickawowwow]

Just saying, odds are if you had went through with having the child every day you would have thought about the day you decided not to get an abortion. You can sugar coat it as much as you like but it's the truth

#Prochoice

[Kryptonite]

This isn't the place for there to be debates, guys. This is a personal story, and I won't allow a debate to get started on this thread. I sincerely hope all of you are kidding me.

to the OP: Thank you for sharing your story.