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Well i found out yesterday i am going to be a dad. I have been with my gf a year now, Which i know is not long. I dont expect her to get an abortion or anything but i am really worried. I feel i am too young to be a dad. (Im 21 by the way)
I except my responsibility and will be there for her all the way, just do you think people will be disappointed in me and think i am stupid as we have not been together that long really? I need to tell my mum just i dont know how she will react.
I have obv never been a dad before or looked after kids. I feel like I will fail my kid and fail my family for having one. I duno what to think im confused :/
Of course you are not a failure. You are already doing something that is right and that is by saying you will stick by your girlfriend and also your child.
If you sit down with your mum I and have a talk about it as adults then it should go fine. Your mum may even want to help you both.
It is best that you get help from your family right now as you may need them to support you a little. I know you may stand on your own two feet but it is still hard bringing up children. I wish you three of you the best
I wouldn't know how to approach it, but i would guess getting your parents and her parents and yous both together and talk about it, best to get it out now rather than later or it will just get worse and worse and you'll never be able to get to tell them before its too late . My mum had me at the age of 21 and she had been together for 1year.
Your willing to be there for her the whole way through, of course u wont be a failure, your commited. ppl will be in shock, not dissapointed and think you are stupid. its a baby, your baby and you shouldnt be worried about that, and telling ur mum, she should be happy for you to So stop worrying and enjoy it
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Take a deep breath and relax. You will be fine. You are by no means a failure. If someone looks at you as if you are a failure, they are stuck on their own insecurities. One year may not be all that long, but it is certainly long enough to love someone, get engaged, get married or have a child. It's all up to you what happens now. Just because you haven't looked after a child, doesn't mean that you are going to be bad at it. You will learn. It will be a terrifying feeling, and you will think that you are doing everything wrong, but believe me, you will be okay. Don't worry about your mom. You are a grown man, and your mothers opinion, no matter how important to you, isn't going to be that important in the long run. You are still going to be a father, and she is still going to have a grandchild that she is going to love. Be there for your girlfriend, not just physically but emotionally. Remember, things are going to be said that she doesn't necessarily mean, don't take it too much to heart. You'll get through this and when you see your baby, it'll all be worth it.
I am proud of you though. A man taking his responsibillity because most men dump their
girlfriends or foce them to do abortion once they get pregnant, but you do the right thing
and that's what makes you a man and a father. Just because the women gets pregnat
doesn't mean the man is the father, to be a father you are willing to be with the women
and love her and the child and never to abandon them.
Your mom might be a little upset, but I think she will be proud to knowing you are taking
the responsibillity. Things will work out hopefully. You wont fail your kid, the matter of
raising them right and teaching wrong and right is how they become who they become.
Although some kids out there grow up and not be like their parents most tend to be like
their parents or think the same way as them or other. The parents job is to be a good
role model for them and be there for them. I'm not saying you have to go out and do
incredible stuff to impress the child, but you just gotta always show off positive things
because if you do negative things then it will want to to.
I'm sure everything is gonna be fine, just hang in there.^^
Well i found out yesterday i am going to be a dad. I have been with my gf a year now, Which i know is not long. I dont expect her to get an abortion or anything but i am really worried. I feel i am too young to be a dad. (Im 21 by the way)
I except my responsibility and will be there for her all the way, just do you think people will be disappointed in me and think i am stupid as we have not been together that long really? I need to tell my mum just i dont know how she will react.
I have obv never been a dad before or looked after kids. I feel like I will fail my kid and fail my family for having one. I duno what to think im confused :/
See, I like a guy who takes responsiblity, now and days you have guys that are like that ain't my baby yeah anyways.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years, almost 3 years in November, were scared about everything especially telling the parents but once that's out of the way I hope everything ill be fine. You never know parents, friends and family will surprise you. Some parents are very supportive and others are diffrent like mine. Hang in there and keep us posted ok (:
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. My mum had me at the age of 21 and she had been together for 1year.
