My girl mate found out she is pregnant

[Mr Nice Guy]

A very good friend of mine has found out she is pregnant and she said she does not know who the dad is. So obviously i asked her a few questions and she said she had multiple one night stands and has no idea who it could be and doesnt know what to do so she is seeking advice from me.

Now i dont know what to say as personally i would not like to have a baby when i dont even know who the dad is etc and also knowing no dad will be there to help and support me but do i say that to her as i dont want to sound like i am saying get an abortion as i am not implying that at all! but i am not telling her to keep it either as i dont know what she wants to do!

Uh i am in tight situation here and need some advice on what you would say.

thanks guys

[Alex]

First off how old are you two? Also I can not make the choice for her if she wants to keep the baby BUT! I think most high schools ( If your in high school ) offer child classes ( or something ) where students that are trained watch your baby for you so students can keep their academic progress good so they can get a good job.

I'm sorry about your friend, not knowing who the father is. She can't think back to all the guys she slept back with? I think you should support her decision of whatever she decides to do. It's going to be hard for her, she's pregnant and she doesn't know who the father is alot of emotions come out during this process. There are 3 options she could go for. Adoption, abortion and keeping it. She needs to tell someone else other than you like an adult figure doesn't matter how old you are she should seek help from a mother,father or some type of family that can also help her in with the support. There are classes offered, free of charge and also classes offered to students.

[Mr Nice Guy]

I am 18 but what does my age have to do with anything? lol and yeah she knows this but she wants advice from me and i just dont know what to say.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Quote: Originally Posted by Allie

I'm sorry about your friend, not knowing who the father is. She can't think back to all the guys she slept back with? I think you should support her decision of whatever she decides to do. It's going to be hard for her, she's pregnant and she doesn't know who the father is alot of emotions come out during this process. There are 3 options she could go for. Adoption, abortion and keeping it. She needs to tell someone else other than you like an adult figure doesn't matter how old you are she should seek help from a mother,father or some type of family that can also help her in with the support. There are classes offered, free of charge and also classes offered to students.

thanks mate, i will tell her she needs to speak to an older person. cheers

How old is she, Age is everything sometimes. Some people at a very young are aren't ready for that type of responsibility. You have to be stable to support another being. :\

[Mr Nice Guy]

She is 18 like me, 19 next month

Does she have a job that would pay enough for her, and the baby and living on her own?

[Brainiac]

first once, it's not important who the father is, i guess. the child is more important - and what becomes of the child. then you can still find out who the father is.