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My friend asked me if i cut myself and i said no. Now I feel awful! My friend only asked because she cares about me, but i care about her and I'd feel awful about telling her cause it would hurt her. What should I do?
I would tell your friend... There goes a saying if I don't want to know I won't ask.
If you trust her and know that she cares about you, I would tell her... Maybe she can help you through it... And I think maybe you might hurt her more by lying to her... =\
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Re: I lied to my friend
yes i think confiding in the friend may be benefical for you, but only tell them when you're 100% sure it's the right time for you. Wait until the other person is calm. Be honest and say you have something to share and that it may be a shock. However you should consider what friends you want to tell carefully.
i used to cut and i know that if my friends wernt there to help me through it, i never wouldve stoped. i know it's somewhat embarassing, but the first step is coming to terms with it.
and also, if your friend is so judgemental to you that you have to lie, maybe they are not that good of friend.
Tell your friend you lied then talk to them about it. If you don't feel you can just cut yourself again and post images up as your msn pic and tell her "help" or something. A lot easier.
i would tell my friend. If you trust her enough, then it shouldnt be a problem. if you cant trust her because she would tell or she would judge you, then she ist a very good friend. just tell her what you did and im sure if shes a good friend she can help you.
If you don't feel you can just cut yourself again and post images up as your msn pic and tell her "help" or something. A lot easier.
I don't think thats such a good idea, If I seen someone doing that, I would think its a bit sad that they've taken pictures of there cuts, because it just shows they want attention from the cuts.. When its not exactly the cutting that is the biggest problems, its the reasons people feel the need to cut that need to be dealt with... You don't always need to point out the cutting, talking about the reasons you feel the need to cut may be help enough..
My friend asked me if i cut myself and i said no. Now I feel awful! My friend only asked because she cares about me, but i care about her and I'd feel awful about telling her cause it would hurt her. What should I do?
'she cares about me' <---- thats what i'm getting at
she cares about you. she'll want to know and maybe it will hurt her a bit at first but she'll focus on trying to make you feel like you dont have to cut anymore. she'll be your shoulder. Everybody needs a friend like that
if she knows that you trust her enough to tell her this now, your friendship will be stronger
I think you should tell her. It's hard, I know. My friend told me that she cut herself and it was really hard for her. I really care about her and helped her out of the cycle. She slips back into occasionally but less and less now. And you won't hurt her. She'll be proud of you for opening up to her and telling her something that is a major concern in your life. Trust her, she'll be there for you.
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I lied to my friend
If I seen someone doing that, I would think its a bit sad that they've taken pictures of there cuts, because it just shows they want attention from the cuts.. When its not exactly the cutting that is the biggest problems, its the reasons people feel the need to cut that need to be dealt with... You don't always need to point out the cutting, talking about the reasons you feel the need to cut may be help enough..
