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Old 15-07-09, 08:00 PM   #1
 
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Default How do I help my girlfriend who smokes pot?

Ever since my girlfriend began smoking pot again, she became so different. We've been going out for two years and she's been clean, before that, only did it several times. She did pot and ecstasy at a party, and now she's smoking pot every day with criminals and dealers, sometimes during school, sometimes skipping school because she stays out till four AM partying. She barely smiles anymore unless you mention cocaine or pot, then she gets giddy and wants some, otherwise she's depressed.

Everyone has been telling me that there's nothing wrong with pot, and I know it isn't that bad, but to me it's bad when she does it. I don't know what to say to her and how to help her. She always yells at me when I try to help her, and she tells me no matter what I say, she's not changing. I'm not going to dump her, and telling her parents won't help, because they already know about everything and don't care. She has no one else to help her. I already considered rooting up the dealer and turning him in anonymously to the police, but please help, I don't know what to do.
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Default Re: How do I help my girlfriend who smokes pot?

Turn the dealer in of course.

Better yet it's called tough love, turn her in as well - if she's a minor then they'll go easy on her.
Maybe you should tell her how you feel about what she is doing then recommend her going to rehab.

Tell her that if she keeps this up she'll die quicker, get sick easier, and will only make herself more depressed.

Or you could always tie her down to a bed to deprive her body of the drug and slowly work her off of it.
Or call the cops on her and the whole deal.

Look, if she cared about you at all then she would do her best to make you happy.
If you told her how you feel and she still can't see it then she's right, she won't change.

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hm, my bf used to smoke.... and once i was doing some research about it and i found a video on youtube about the things that happen after (that ur lungs r all black and all of that stuff). The vid is so freaky. Well i showed him the vid and he never smoked again becuz he saw what his inside would look like even though he would look normal. =]
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she needs rehabilitation. if you love her for real, you should turn her in- if she's a minor.




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Default Re: How do I help my girlfriend who smokes pot?

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Turn the dealer in of course.

Better yet it's called tough love, turn her in as well - if she's a minor then they'll go easy on her.
Maybe you should tell her how you feel about what she is doing then recommend her going to rehab.

Tell her that if she keeps this up she'll die quicker, get sick easier, and will only make herself more depressed.

Or you could always tie her down to a bed to deprive her body of the drug and slowly work her off of it.
Or call the cops on her and the whole deal.

Look, if she cared about you at all then she would do her best to make you happy.
If you told her how you feel and she still can't see it then she's right, she won't change.

You can force people into rehab you know...
You always have the best advice as from what i've seen. I'd tell her and if she continues just anonymously report her into rehab. That's what most people do.
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Default Re: How do I help my girlfriend who smokes pot?

Oh my GOD!

This is why kids should not be asking help from kids.

Ever since my girlfriend began smoking pot again, she became so different. We've been going out for two years and she's been clean, before that, only did it several times. She did pot and ecstasy at a party, and now she's smoking pot every day with criminals and dealers, sometimes during school, sometimes skipping school because she stays out till four AM partying. She barely smiles anymore unless you mention cocaine or pot, then she gets giddy and wants some, otherwise she's depressed.

Listen kid, she isn't depressed because of the drugs, she is doing drugs BECAUSE SHE IS DEPRESSED!

telling her parents won't help, because they already know about everything and don't care.
Huh... I wonder if that has anything to do with it...

She has no one else to help her.

Except for you, her friends, a therapist would do for now... What you should be doing is trying to support her and talk to her, and not tell her that you dislike her habits and think she is a bad person for having them!!!

I already considered rooting up the dealer and turning him in anonymously to the police, but please help, I don't know what to do.


Ugh, that's it, turn in her friend to the police, that will make her feel much better... And we all know that pot is an extremely dangerous and addictive drug...


Listen kid, your best bet is to just talk to her and ask her about what has been making her depressed. NOT TAKING MATTERS INTO YOUR OWN DAMN HANDS! Ask her to see therapy. Try to introduce her to some friendly people. But DO NOT talk to a school counsellor about it, the are "Mandatory Reporters."


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Turn the dealer in of course.

Are you insane? You don't even know the guy and you are telling this kid to turn him into the police? Has he committed any other crime besides selling pot? For all you know he could be the girls brother you idiot!

Better yet it's called tough love, turn her in as well - if she's a minor then they'll go
easy on her.


No they will NOT, she will have a drug felony and it will be on her record for life. But let's assume that being a minor means she WON'T have to worry about finding jobs or going to work in certain areas... Do you really want to put her through that? It's NOT going to save your relationship.

Maybe you should tell her how you feel about what she is doing then recommend her going to rehab.

Tell her that if she keeps this up she'll die quicker, get sick easier, and will only make herself more depressed.


Pot is NOT GOING TO KILL HER! Cocaine and the E might do quite a bit of damage though, but she doesn't need to go to rehab, she needs to not take them again! This doesn't sound like a heavy user, this sounds like a stupid girl experimenting.

Or you could always tie her down to a bed to deprive her body of the drug and slowly work her off of it.
Or call the cops on her and the whole deal.


My god I hope you are just a troll! I can't believe you would EVER moderate a place like this, where kids actually WANT important advice. What a joke.

Look, if she cared about you at all then she would do her best to make you happy.
IT IS NOT HER JOB TO MAKE YOU HAPPY!!!!! IT IS HER JOB TO KEEP HERSELF HAPPY!!!! AND OBVIOUSLY SHE NEEDS SOME SUPPORT YOU IDIOT!

You can force people into rehab you know...
I could force my fist into your face, would that make it right?

hm, my bf used to smoke.... and once i was doing some research about it and i found a video on youtube about the things that happen after (that ur lungs r all black and all of that stuff). The vid is so freaky. Well i showed him the vid and he never smoked again becuz he saw what his inside would look like even though he would look normal. =]

Hope this helps

Listen, smoking anything is bad for you. But the damage of smoking pot is so vastly exaggerated it's laughable. It's nothing near the damage from a cigarette, neither in the chemicals your body gets, or the amount of smoke you get. (People don't smoke pot like they do cigarettes.) And did you know it's literally IMPOSSIBLE to OD on pot?

Of course I did hours of research myself instead of just blindly believing the pro-drug or anti-drug sides.

Oh, and it's good to know that you said a PSA that lied to you. Isn't there a law against things like that?

she needs rehabilitation. if you love her for real, you should turn her in- if she's a
minor.


If your a kid, you shouldn't be talking about this having no big relationship experience. If your an adult, you shouldn't be trying to give advice on teen depression or pot use. And I seriously DOUBT you have any law enforcement experience, so why the hell are you acting like you know what will happen to her?


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Give her support, tell her you love her, find out what is really wrong. Advise her not to go father than pot and don't convince her that you will stop loving her if she disagrees.
Get her some therapy, from a PROFESSIONAL.

Oh, and High school relationship never work out, so don't worry when you guys break up.

Normally right now I would cite studies and my references, but I am doing this in 10 minutes, so I am just going to say this:

Look up cannabis toxicity on wikipedia.

ALWAYS DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH, PEOPLE IN AUTHORITY ARE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT AND IF YOU HAVEN'T BEEN TAUGHT THAT THEN THERE REALLY ISN'T ANY POINT IN GOING TO SCHOOL IS THERE?
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Default Re: How do I help my girlfriend who smokes pot?

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Turn the dealer in of course. Better yet it's called tough love, turn her in as well - if she's a minor then they'll go easy on her. Maybe you should tell her how you feel about what she is doing then recommend her going to rehab.
This is absolutely terrible advice.

Your idea of a good game plan is to have someone mercilessly beaten, given an undeserved criminal record, kidnapped and forcefully restrained then bullied into a probably unnecessary and expensive rehab. Oi vey.

Let me tell you a story. There was a guy a friend of mine knew once; lets call him Frank. Frank was a moron and got caught. In who knows what kind of pious, self-righteous haze, Frank's parents called the police on his dealer. The dealer got 2 years of undeserved hard time because of Frank.

So that's a good thing right? Certainly not for Frank, or his dealer.

A few days later Frank got dragged right out of his house, onto the street and was mercilessly beaten by a friend of the dealer. Just trounced him. Smashed his face right in. Sent him to the hospital very seriously banged up. Moral of the story? "Snitches get stitches."

Your also wrong about the law "going easy" on anyone. They would love you to believe otherwise, but the truth is that police are scheming little weasels when it comes to drugs. They'll happily slap you in cuffs so fast you'll hear a sonic boom, no matter what they "promised" you. A criminal record for drugs isn't something I'd wish upon my worst enemy, nevermind a friend. (With friends like that, who needs enemies?)

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Or you could always tie her down to a bed to deprive her body of the drug and slowly work her off of it.
What movie did you pull that out of? Seriously... Also, neither Ecstasy (for almost all intents and purposes) or Cannabis are physically addicting, and are only potentially "mentally addictive".

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Look, if she cared about you at all then she would do her best to make you happy. If you told her how you feel and she still can't see it then she's right, she won't change. You can force people into rehab you know...
What the hell kind of a one-sided relationship is that? She exists simply to comply? Sometimes relationships just wont work out and you have to be prepared for it. If your at this crossroads and you cannot find a solution satisfying to both parties then end it. If it doesn't work out now, it certainly wont work out later down the road. If she wants to get tanked every night, yeah you can try and talk her out of it... but if she continues? That's her choice definitely not yours. Walking away, however is a very viable option, and totally within your power. Abusive relationships help no one.

And you absolutely cannot force someone into rehab...

Dude above me is also right, cannabis is so ridiculously safe in comparison to anything you can buy in a drug store its laughable. That is not to say it's something kids should be using, but drinking is much, much worse for developing brains.
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Is this serious? I mean really she smokes pot and you are freaking out? It's pot for F'
n sakes not meth..not heroin..not cocaine..

I have a good education! a great job! One awesome family and Fiancée and guess what folks I SMOKE POT! Cancer patients smoke pot! Famous writers, singers, authors, politicians, POLICE OFFICERS I even know DOCTORS and scientists that smoke pot.

More people will Die in PLANE CRASHES then as a result of smoking pot and pot alone...people on this site need to really do their research..You can only get lung cancer from smoking pot if you smoke up to a Pound or more a week ..most pot smokers don't smoke nearly that much...I guarantee soon enough it will be legal..and what then people? what ever will you do about all those dreaded pot smokers!!!

you all are laughable
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