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Ive been dating my gf since March this year, Im 17 and shes 17 too, we have become really close in a short time and I neither of us expected to get as close as much as we have.

She started asking if she could move in with my me at my mums house, there is spare room but my mum doesnt really have the money to pay for another to stay with us as shes supporting my uncle who recently lost his job.

The reason she wants to move in so fast is because her dad is very aggressive. He comes home late at night drunk and starts lashing out at her and her mum. I have been over at her house and seen the state its in, theirs no wallpaper, carpets or nothing and theres even holes in the doors where her dads punched them in.

I dont want to ring for any help because I know she would hate me for it and we would probably split up, im in shreds over this. One side of me says ring the police but the other is saying dont because it will wreck her family and she will hate me for it.

I know she doesnt want to be a part of it with wanting to move in with me but my mum really wont let her stay. I dont want her to end up in a youth hostel full of drug addicts either.

Im thinking of going to the council and asking to be put on the list for a house for us but that could take years my mum said. I could try to get a job and pay for somewhere for us but Im not qualified in anything so that would be really hard.

I just dont know what to do to help and I pray someone has some advice for me.

Gary

Call the police, she may resent you for it but if it's for her own good good then let her resent you now.
If you care about her then you'd do anything to help her even if she hated you for it *has been in that situation*.
I called for my friend once, haven't seen her since. Word is she's much happier now.

you have to contact authorities. This is getting out of hand. You are 17...when you/if you break up where will she go? maybe things wont work out with you, moving in i would try to avoid. Honestly, truely plz contact the police.

I dont know where you live but maybe there are some resources available. I don't know that calling the police is the right thing to do. It sounds like the dad just trashes the place when hes' drunk. you say your mom wouldn't mind her moving in she just cant aford another mout to feed. Like i said maybe she wouldn't have to worry about that if you can just get asistance from. Charitable organizations so that you can help support her your self until you get those skills you need to find work. Good luck on what ever you decide is best for you and for her. Anything i can do to help. Don't hesitate, just ask.

the cops.She will hate you but its for her own good.I have been in a similar situation.

There are services for these instances. You can call authorities that can help her recieve housing so that she doesn't have to move in with you. If she moves in with you there is a chance of break-up and even further issues for her. Just be there for her, and you should make a call. Even if she does resent you for it, you've still done the right thing. Good Luck.

Yeah.Good luck.

i second that.

if i were you and i loved her, i would call the police, she may hate you for it, but you have to make sacrifices for those who you love

Putting her on the housing list will take years, trust me I know with my sister and her husband trying to get a place and there in FULL TIME EMPLOYMENT!!!

I would say look for charities like Bernardo's I think its called, I saw an advert on TV and maybe they could help? Just an idea.

All the best mate, keep us up to date how it goes nevertheless!

Ben =)