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Hi all.
I didn't really know where to put this, but anyway, I absolutely hate myself and everything about myself. I hate my voice, my face, just everything. And it's all becuase of the people in my form at school and I just don't know what to do. I don't self harm or anything, but today I had a pair of scissors and felt like starting. I'm scared of myself, if that makes sense. HELP!

Dont let them get to you, no one is perfect no matter how much they act like they are, and no one is better than anyone else. Everyone is equal.

Just remember everyone is beautiful in there own way.

First of all, welcome to Teen Forumz I'm John.

Clo, your problem is more common than you think. You lack something most people also lack. It's called confidence. Lack of confidence leads to low self-esteem (or even no self-esteem at all). You tend to be negative about everything and think you aren't good enough in any aspect.

But you aren't horrible, not even close. You're spectacular. But me (or anyone) complimenting you will not solve anything. So here's my advice.

Grab a piece of paper and a pen. Write down one thing you like about yourself, or something you are glad you have done today. It can be anything, as simple as "My drawing looked really good" or "my hair looks good today". Anything at all.
The next day write another thing on the same piece of paper. Repeat it for about a month, don't miss a day. At the end of the month, take that piece of paper and read the list. Look at all the great qualities you have, there so much good in you!

Another thing, don't compare yourself to others. People are beautiful both in personality and looks in their own way, thus being unique. So you can't compare yourself to others, you are you and they are they. It's like comparing an apple to a pear. Some people prefer one, while otehrs prefer the other. Each one of us have a qualities and flaws. Work to love yourself for who you are. Embrace your qualities and your flaws, it's who you are and what makes you who you are. There's no one out there like you, you are a work of art.

And as you know, cutting will not solve anything. So I suggest working on not developing that habbit. Call someone whenever you feel the urge.

Hope I helped

"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra

I used to hate seeing myself in a mirror. What stared back seemed so ghastly with spots and blemishes that I used to pick at. And it’s this disapproving of oneself that wears down our self-confidence and motivation. However, with a little effort, you can begin feeling better by telling yourself firmly but gently to "stop it" and then substituting new thoughts which lead you to a more optimistic outcome. And over months when I was younger, with the help of mummy I began building confidence in myself far more than I thought possible.

Have you a grand parent? Grandpas and grandmas, they have generations of experience and are surprisingly more tolerant than that of our parents. You might find talking to one a blessing. But it begins with us making a bit of effort.

Have you a besty? A close friend who can be with you during times when you are tempted to self-injure? I did, and she really helped me. Don’t be afraid to ask a friend. And over time, especially when there’s a stronger friend around who is there for you, it is possible to build greater self-esteem and self-confidence. I know this for myself, and though at the time life was difficult and I kept thinking I’ll never get to be happy, my self-image got better.



Best,
Poppi

Wanna know something that helped me? I started laughing at peoples rudeness and disrespect towards me. When they would say stuff I'd laugh and they would become more angry but in the end they'd leave me alone. Try it and hopefully it can help you also.

Thanks, but the problem is, whenever I try to think anything good about myself, I feel like I'm being arrogant, which doesn't help.

What a great idea.

That is very common. However, you have to mentalize yourself that confidence and over-confidence are two seperate things. Confidence and self-aknowlegment are healthy, as you are the only person who can judge yourself. To admit your flaws, you must have the power to admit your qualities. The only way to get rid of that feeling of arrogance is to try aknowledging yourself more often.
It's normal it feels arrogant or strange when you try it, it's alien to you. Get used to it and you'll notice the positive result

"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra

Okay, I'll try that. Thanks.

Keep me updated Clo Send me a message when you have news on that

"If I do good, people might accuse me of selfish, ulterior motives, but I will still do it. Because I believe no one is malicious, not in their core, in their raw being.
The best in them is clouded by sorrows and fears, take those away and you'll bring out the brightest of lights in them.
Because no one can be happy without being kind, without giving ourselves to another, and we all love to give ourselves, it is our true nature.
That is why, even if I might get disappointed, I'll always give the best I've got. A single candle can light a thousand others and still burn." - Skezra