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Your Body and MindSeek & share advice with teens on aspects of your body including your mind, fitness, mental & physical abuse, disabilities, puberty, drugs, alcohol & more.
I'm worried about myself, because everyday i hate being me, mainly because of how I feel I look. I always feel like I look different to everyone else, and look stupid and not as good as everyone else. I always feel like non of the clothes people wear look good on me, and I feel like even If i wear what my friends wear, I still look stupid.
I hate going out anywhere because I feel overweight and ugly and like I look horrible, and even though people say I look really nice, I look in the mirror and hate what I see. I just feel like staying indoors for the rest of my life so no one has to see me.
I dont know how to stop this, it really gets me down and I want to go out this school holiday and enjoy myself. But, feeling how i do now, i'll just leave the house and see everyone looking better than me and want to cry and stay indoors.
Does anyone else feel anything like this? I just dont know what to do anymore. :
It's normal for teenagers to be paranoid about their looks, everybody goes through it. But you need to realise that everyone is different, you don't need to look like other people, we're all unique. Why don't you go out shopping with friends and try to find clothes that go with your shape and that you like in that way it's something you like with your friends opinions. Locking yourself up at home isn't good you need to go out and have fun, you're still a teenager remember!
I just hope you take in what I said, everyone is different and to me noone is ugly. Everyone has their pros and cons. Looks shouldn't matter to much.
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I feel like this every day. Of course, there is a difference between actually being ugly and fat and thinking that you are. I actually am. I never receive compliments, I receive negative comments about how ugly I am and how my clothes look stupid on me. It is a good sign if someone says you look nice. It means that you actually do! What you see is nonsense, because everyone else sees something else.
I don't look good in clothing. That's just me. I have a horrible body shape and my face is terrible. I really doubt you're like me if you're receiving compliments! Try to look at yourself from other people's point of view and maybe you'll see something different.
People always say that your biggest critic is yourself and that's very true; people are telling you that you look nice and that's a very good indication that you're being way too harsh on yourself. Like Amy says, it is normal for teenagers to be paranoid about their looks so you won't be alone in how you feel. Again, like Amy says go out with some friends shopping and pick some clothes out for yourself; you can have a good time and a laugh out with them and you can trust your friends to be honest and say what they think does or doesn't suit you.
The world glorifies the "perfect body" and when your self esteem has taken a knock and you've convinced yourself you're fat or ugly it's very hard to suddenly start being positive. Remember though, attractiveness is a matter of opinion and is subjective. People like different things and so I can guarantee someone will like your appearance and if you have a good feeling about yourself then that's even better.
Start focusing on the parts of your body you like, and stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone is unique. Make sure that you're eating healthily and getting exercise and generally leading a healthy lifestyle and that'll help to feel better about yourself. I've heard suggested before that you should write down any compliment you get about yourself on how you look and reading it back can help.
You should definitely be going out with your friends during the holidays and shouldn't stop yourself over how you think you look. Going out and enjoying yourself will be much better than sitting around getting yourself down; sometimes having too much time on your own to think isn't always a good thing.
Honestly, I was the same way before. always worrying about my looks but then everyone kept saying how pretty I was and stuff then I started realizing that I shouldn't worry about my looks. I'm not completely happy with my looks but I learned that I shouldn't worry about them and let them eat at me all of the time. everyone is beautiful/handsome in their own way, in my eyes. they just have to believe in that. and I agree with what Amy said, go out shopping with friends and just have fun and don't let your looks get to you. I hope this helps.
The only way to get past this stage is to get out of that negative mind frame. Only some people can have the looks, but anyone can have an amazing personality if they try, and that's the most important.
As teenagers we want to fit in and look as good as everyone else. It's natural. I'm sure you look perfectly fine
If anything it's good to develop your own sense of style, that way you're unique as a person and not just another sheep following the crowd. You're lucky because you actually have people telling you that you look good. Many people have the opposite, so if you act good and feel good you will look good!
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