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Old 22-07-11, 04:42 PM   #1
 
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I went to the doctor today to have a problem with my lymph nodes tested. They're in my groin, so I expected a swab. Which terrified me.

When I was about to have the swab done I was scared to death. It was a tiny cottom swab but when they put it in it was so uncomfortable and scary I was almost crying. I actually was more happy to have my blood drawn.

I hate putting things inside me; the most I've done is about one finger, which even then felt uncomfortable and scary. I like the idea of sex, but with my fear that I experienced at the doctor with the tiny cotton swab made me think that maybe I'll be too scared to even have sex. Will I be a virgin forever? How do I get over this stupid fear?
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Old 22-07-11, 04:47 PM   #2
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you will be ok. it sounds like anxiety. i doubt you will be a virgin forever. you just have to relax. i was kinda the same way at the beginning of my pregnancy... O.o i did not want my dr down there. it can be embarrassing. if you have a male dr, you can switch to a female dr. i was actually more comfortable with a male dr. so are two of my sisters. you just have to relax. hope this helped a little bit.
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Old 22-07-11, 04:49 PM   #3
 
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It was a female doctor, with an intern there too. It was a super thin tiny swab but it hurt and I didn't like the feeling of it going in. I hated the whole thing. I've never liked my fingers inside me either. I don't know...is this even normal? Should I be worried that I don't like it?
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Old 22-07-11, 04:52 PM   #4
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those swabs can hurt. and can cause cramps after. (i know that that is different for everyone.)
and it can be normal. i didnt like anything inside me for a while (i.e. when i started masturbating, didnt like it.)
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Old 22-07-11, 04:53 PM   #5
 
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But I'm 17, the doctor was surprised when I said I wasn't sexually active and when I told her I'd never had anything in my really she was even more surprised. It's pathetic. I just don't like the feeling.
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you are not pathetic.
i actually have a friend, she is 22 now, she has never had sex, never been sexually active, and i do not think that she has masturbated, like fingering herself.
everyone is different dee.
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Old 22-07-11, 04:58 PM   #7
 
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I know, but I don't want to always be a virgin. The problem is I don't enjoy penetration, and I want to—that's what a vagina is for! If I don't like sex I don't know if I have a chance at dating someone.
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dee, things can change.
all you can do is try and use your fingers sometimes. that feeling may change. you may like it later on. and when you do get a guy. if he is understanding, then he will understand.
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Old 22-07-11, 05:12 PM   #9
 
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I'll try to use fingers more often, just to get used to it. I need to! I don't want to be afraid of sex. It's something I look forward to >.<
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good
there is nothing to really be scared about.
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