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I mean some would say report her or call the cops but it was so long ago, she was so young, now her kids would probably be taking by CPS for awhile at least. It's just a very messy situation.. I can't say my advice is the right advice because it's really hard to deal with sexual abuse, so if you're seeing a therapist or someone about this? idk. I just think it'd be rough to do to those kids what happened to you guys, when she was just a kid herself when it happened.
And, again you're very welcome.
Well, i would never condemn my nieces and nephew for my own personal problem with their mother.
No i am not seeing anyone about this.
As stated above, i would do no such thing.
Ya it is pretty messy but, what can you do?
I am gonna take your advice to heart though and i hope that well be able to iron out our differences and clean up the 'mess' as best we can.
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Yeah I mean I don't think we have to worry about her being some actual creep because you live in the same house, you would be able to tell if she was doing something to her own children most likely, yeah? Is there any other indicators you've noticed about her or does she seem to be a good person and a good mom despite not being able to have her own place and being knocked up a lot.
I think if it went on longer and she was older it would be an issue, but 11 is really young and she stopped when you said. I think it's just a really messed up situation with losing your siblings and parents and that, I think it was just a creeped up way of getting comfort and holding onto you.
But again I know nothing of this or what is right, it's just my opinion. Someday, you may talk to an actual therapist about this and see what they say. But i think for now you should just try and forgive her and move on with your life, or eventually write her a letter and get things out in the open. I'm sure it's probably hard for her as well. How long did it go on for?
But don't think it was your fault or you should have stopped it, you were only six you barely knew. And also don't keep this in to yourself, talk to people you trust when you need to. Or even on here there's always people willing to listen even just if you need to talk/vent, myself included. So never feel like you're alone with this.
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It's pronounced "Near" by the way. While you figure out what I'm alluding to, I'll just be gathering evidence for your...execution. I know you spelled my name out. I don't like it when people spell my name out. So your gonna have to pay for that...
Eventually it stoped when i said no to what was happening.We returned to our mothers care six years later. I never told my mom about it because, i was scared and didn't know whether i was a victim of the abuse or the cause. I loved my mom more than anything in the world and didn't want to hurt her with such terrible news at the time.
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I was eleven when i made that decision. Just thought i'd point that out.
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It's pronounced "Near" by the way. While you figure out what I'm alluding to, I'll just be gathering evidence for your...execution. I know you spelled my name out. I don't like it when people spell my name out. So your gonna have to pay for that...
It doesn't take much for a child of a young age to realize that something abnormal and weird would hurt their mother, especailly a mother who works so hard, already lost her children, single mom etc. Kids pick up on that FAR more then you think.
From joy to sorrow, yesterday to tomorrow, you've been there. Friends like you are rare, your touch is so gentle,
You're my guardian angel.
Like a blossoming flower spreading your wings in grace, filling my heart with power
by feeling your embrace.
Wherever the wind may blow, we will overcome this war, in times happy or sore, I will never let you go.
With a gentle warm heart and a will of stone, We'll never be apart, You'll never be alone. - John <3
I think that you didn't completely understand the situation, she may have been so embarrassed about it that she couldn't talk with you. You should probably confront her and come to terms wth your past...You need her to also realize that she is partly responsible for what happened and make up. Your siblings are who you will rely on until you die...you need to fix this! Hope I helped
Ya i know. I'm still gathering up the courage though.... : (
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It's pronounced "Near" by the way. While you figure out what I'm alluding to, I'll just be gathering evidence for your...execution. I know you spelled my name out. I don't like it when people spell my name out. So your gonna have to pay for that...
It's something i never told anyone, ever. To me, actually confronting her about it, and having her say something mean or nasty about me for bringing it up, i don't know that i could ever recover from that.
It's hard to explain really.
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It's pronounced "Near" by the way. While you figure out what I'm alluding to, I'll just be gathering evidence for your...execution. I know you spelled my name out. I don't like it when people spell my name out. So your gonna have to pay for that...
It's something i never told anyone, ever. To me, actually confronting her about it, and having her say something mean or nasty about me for bringing it up, i don't know that i could ever recover from that.
It's hard to explain really.
Is there ANY counseling resource available to you? This stuff is causing you a good deal of pain, to the point that you are questioning your role in the whole thing. On top of that it is an obstacle to good relationships within your house. Being able to talk with a professional one on one may help you sort a lot of this stuff out.
I also think you are doing something my therapist showed me that I was doing. At the time this happened to you, you were too young to understand all of the wrongness. As you got older you learned and are questioning what you could have done as if you had that information back then. It's complicated, but I came to understand it and left therapy three years ago. My situation was not abuse but loss, but the transfer (don't know of that's what it's called) was the same.
I'm also sorry this all happened to you, and I'm glad you feel like its time to start talking about it. I believe that is always a positive start to feeling better.
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