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My Boyfriend is 16 years old, he keeps smoking cigarettes all the time which really annoy me; I want him to stop smoking so he cant harm himself but he keep telling me that he will stop but he doesn't.. i really cant find a way to let him stop smoking & in the same time i don't want to tell him that in a direct way "stop smoking" because he will think that i block some stuff on him which will make him hate me? I've told his best friend(he doesn't smoke) to try to let him stop smoking but he doesn't hear his advice.. so any ideas? ..

**Sorry if i'm posting this in the wrong forum but i really didn't know where to put it,, anyways thanks for reading & have a nice day O

You can't really do much to stop people smoking, they have to learn the mistake they are making for themself. Try have a deep conversation with him about how much it would mean to you if he stopped for you, how much you hate it or even how much he means to you and he doesn't realise what stupid things he is doing. Just try to have a converstation with him about it, rather than just giving him the few words of 'stop smoking.' You need to be direct and serious about it and just give him the message you want him to stop, rather than being vague about it.

You can't make someone stop smoking, and he has to want to quit smoking to succeed at it.

it's up to him if he really wants to stop smoking and it's up to you to be around someone who acts like a chimey, because that makes you a passive smoker.

The only person that can make him quit is himself. He has to have a reason to do so. If it does bother you go ahead and have a conversation about it with him. Tell him that it does bother you and that you would rather him stop. Now, that probably won't make him stop. But it's worth a shot if it does bother you.

If that doesn't work, you have to make a choice. If you care about him enough and want to stay with him, you might have to just deal with him smoking for a while. I mean, it is his choice to smoke and I'm not sure it would be wise to keep pestering him about it. It might push him away in the end.

Yeah I think that you should just try to keep talking to him Let him know how important it is to you that he doesn't smoke, because at the end of the day if he cares for your feelings and what you think of him, surely he would want to stop? You can't change people but smoking isnt a part of his personality or character it's a thing he can stop he's just got to have some will power

Well, thank you all for your suggestions;; i'm going to talk to him asap and i will see the results,, but he was 1 week ago in London so he bought about 20 cigarette box (small one) so if i told him to stop it now he will tell me that he will stop after he finish them but i dunno if he will buy more or not,,

and about the caring thingy before about 2 weeks ago he drank alcoholic drink which is not allowed to drink in our religion (Musliums) but he drank it maybe 3 times and he started to say stupid stuff,, so i told him before 2 days or 3 days that it really bothers me when he drink that because he start saying stuff like a stupid man! so he left it and he said that he can do anything for me..

but before 1 day i told him dont u think that you are harming yourself by smoking cigarettes? he have said that god has already put a date for my death and that wont let me die before that date so if i smoked or didn't its the same thing,, but he didn't understand that it really bothers me,, and he has told me about the 20 box he told me that i will finish them nearly Aug or July so i'm waiting to the nearest time to tell him that.. and I'm really afraid i dont want him to have problems and diseases as i really care about him..

thankks for reading x

and the idiot doesn't think God already knew he'd smoke so there for knowing when he dies...by them or something else?

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